I knew that people “transitioned” but I didn’t know that sometimes they detransition until I started taking an interest in transgender issues in general. I don’t have anything to say about detransitioning but other people do, so this page is for relevant screenshots, links and videos. It also includes stories of regret from trans people who haven’t detransitioned.
Information and support on tumblr for detransitioners
This story gets pride of place for reasons that should be obvious. It originally appeared on reddit here.
“I’m 19. I was born female, but I’ve lived as a transman for 4 years. I took testosterone for 2. I went cold turkey on T last week.
I’m detransitioning because I’m sick of this community. I’m sick of the kind of activism that’s done in its name. I’m sick of people who want to beat up old ladies in London, completely unprovoked, because she has a different opinion than them.
It started when I saw all this bullshit on tumblr– went cold turkey on that fucking site too. Transwomen saying shit like “anything a trans man can do, trans women can do better”. Calling transmen “shrimp dick”, “fish taco”. Transwomen saying that women deserve to be murdered, raped, burned at the stake, because they’re TERFs.
I saw this all before I transitioned. It’s called male violence, aggression, entitlement. If I have to say through my teeth “transwomen are women” one more time, I’ll fucking explode.
I know. I know that not all transwomen are horrible. I know there are incredible transwomen out there. But I can’t pretend that they weren’t born male, that I wasn’t born female, and that we weren’t socialized accordingly.
I’m disgusted and frightened by how cultlike this community has become. I lost friends for saying I was detransitioning. I’m going to lose more. No one wants you to say “I’m comfortable being gender non-conforming and NOT transitioning”. I was a tomboy all my life. In high school, my transman friend told me I should transition. I did, because I was a fucking idiot, and I hated myself, and I hated being a girl.
I’m sick of being such a sexist fuck. A non binary ex friend of mine always called men with long hair “they/them”. They sure as fuck didn’t do that for guys with short hair. My sister, talking about our cousin’s new baby, was all “she’s such a rowdy baby. She’ll probably turn out trans.”
Why are we medicating people who don’t conform? Why are we giving children the choice to make a life-altering medical decision based on sexism, when they can’t even get a tattoo? Why are we telling girls who don’t want to get caught in the trap of femininity, “oh, well, you must actually be a boy.”
I’m detransitioning. I’m sorry for every and any part I played in trans activism. I was complacent listening to people talk about punching women who disagreed with them. I believed such sexist fucking things. I let other people, the med complex, and stupid little problems like pronouns control my life. There are bigger issues in the world than bathrooms. I’m sorry I spent so much time, money, and emotional effort caring about something that meant less than shit.”
Here’s a screenshot of comment that was spotted beneath an article on a website that no longer exists. Jade is on Twitter.
Jesse Singal article
This one is long and has provoked a massive angry backlash:
When Children Say They’re Trans Jesse Singal
It is accompanied by a video featuring Carey Callahan, who is mentioned in the screenshot of Jade’s quote above: Reversing a gender transition
And here’s a related piece:
Why must trans activists smear those who put forth inconvenient narratives about ‘gender identity’? Meghan Murphy
More personal stories, articles and blogs
30 Transgender Regretters Come Out Of The Closet The Federalist 03.01.19
‘I’m still a man’ says transsexual woman who has a warning for those considering a sex change Nottinghamshire Live 01.01.19
9 Transgender Patients Complain Of Mutilation, Botched Sex-Change Surgeries In Oregon The Federalist 06.12.18
‘I transitioned from female to male, then realised I had made a mistake’ Telegraph 20.11.18
Transgender patient was left depressed and suicidal after ‘losing his penis’ when he surgically transitioned to a woman without having psychoanalysis first Mail 19.11.18
‘I’m not meant to be a bloke’: Woman who changed gender to become a man called Lee 15 years ago says sex swap was a huge mistake and wants to switch back Mail 04.11.18
When Girls Won’t Be Girls Charlie McCann 16.10.18
Spotted on Twitter; not related to any story here
A “sinister mental trap”: One man’s journey back to
An open letter to the medical profession More rote than meaning blog
“A Tear in the Ocean”: The Final Days of Alexis Arquette Hollywood Reporter
Detransition Info on tumblr
Detransitioned man blasts “transworld” 4th Wave Now
Detransitioning: Going From Male To Female To Male Again vocativ
How My ‘Sex Change’ Was Doomed to Fail from the Start Walt Heyer
Female detransition and reidentification: Survey results and interpretation
Feminists, wake up – gender is not a feeling
First cut is the deepest but reversal also traumatic for trans community Janet Albrechtson
From girl to boy and back again, Zahra Cooper shares her journey New Zealand Herald
FTMTF Lady Antitheist
Gender Reversal Surgery is more in demand than ever before Spectator 3.10.17
How psychotherapist James Caspian, who has backed transgender rights for years, was plunged into a nightmare after asking if young people changing sex might later regret it Daily Mail
I might detransition video by Rya Jones
I regret transitioning Anonymous, Guardian
‘I will never be able to have sex again. Ever’ The Sydney Morning Herald
Interview with a Detransitioned MtF Youth Trans Critical Professionals
Non binary identity aka not fitting in with the popular clique Purple Sage
On Sex Change Regret Stella Morabito
Real-Life Victims of the Transgender ‘Cult’ PJ Media
Retransition Rethinking “Trans” : Transgender detransition / retransition (blog)
Sex change doctor guilty of misconduct Guardian May 2007
Sex Change Regret Walt Heyer’s blog
Stop Referring to Medically Transitioned People as “Mutilated” A discussion on Tumblr
The Coming Trans Medical Backlash The American Conservative
The Detransitioners: They Were Transgender, Until They Weren’t Katie Herzog
The new taboo: More people regret sex change and want to ‘detransition’, surgeon says National Post
The top London lawyer who’s changed gender THREE times Daily Mail
Transgender Surgery: Regret rates highest in Male-to-Female Reassignment Operations Newsweek (WARNING: Contains a vid with Caitlyn Jenner which autoplays)
‘Transition caused more problems than it solved’ Elan Anthony, Guardian
Transition is no casual matter, and we need to talk about those who regret it Thain Parnell
Trouble In Transtopia: Murmurs Of Sex Change Regret The Federalist
What I Needed: An Open Letter to Therapists from a Detransitioner Maria Catt aka Carey Callahan
What Two Former Trans Want You To Know About All The Lies The Federalist
Writing thoughts to get them out of my head as I detransition gender. Ported from Twitter Trans Regret
An Open Letter to Julia Serano from One of the Detransitioned People You Claim to “Support” by crashchaoscats 08.08.16
Words of wisdom from radical feminist Peachy Yogurt Detransition: where trans support stops
and some from MtT Blaire White: Detransitioning, regret and going back
Detransition- My reasons and the risks of transitioning
Boy, 14, Reversed His Gender Transition After 2 Years
Want My Sex Back: Transgender people who regretted changing sex (RT Documentary) with Billy Burleigh, Walt Heyer and Rene Jax.
Page last updated: 11.01.19