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  • Sounds like there is no good reason to have a twitter account or even an instagram account.


    Here’s another account of the news item just posted by Maria. “Barbie Kardashian – How a ‘Homicidal’ Transgender Woman was Almost Released to Public”. It’s in “The Burkean” written by Ciaran Brennan, 27 Sept 2020. Tusla, cited in the account is the Irish State agency responsible for improving wellbeing and outcomes for children. TENI is the Transgender Equality Network Ireland. The Burkean is an Irish student publication.

    Here are the closing paragraphs:

    [I]March 2017, Kardashian was taken under supervision to Tavistock clinic in London to evaluate the veracity of his/her gender dysphoria, to which doubt was cast by doctors at the time. In court documents, Ms. Allan of the Tavistock and Portman NHS stated “There was a lack of affect in the way {Kardashian}. described her gender difficulties, as though she was reciting from something she had learned. All the facts were correct but there was no emotional impact”. Additional psychological assessments further cast into doubt as to his/her gender identification as well as highlighting his/her capacity towards self harm and violence.

    Born into a background of severe sexual abuse and economic depravity, Kardashian presented a certificate of gender recognition to the court in the hopes of being assigned to the female section of any potential prison. While presiding Judge Mary Larking stated this was at the discretion of any prison as to where to house Kardashian, UK prisons have received criticism for hosting transgender male prisoners among women resulting in incidents of rape.

    In October 2019, controversy arose in Irish prisons over the housing of a female identifying pre-op male among female prisoners who had been convicted of sexual crimes against women and children. At the time, chair of the Law Society Criminal Law Committee Robert Purcell stated that the nature of the 2015 Gender Recognition Act left the prison service in an impossible position with what to do with transgender prisoners.

    While receiving a surreptitious [sic] lack of mainstream coverage, Kardashian due to his/her age has enjoyed a media embargo on his name being broadcast going under the initial ‘G’ in all prior reporting. While Irish media has been quick to press home support for what is a clear and unhinged transgender agenda, the case of Kardashian presents some rather awkward questions.

    Among those questions are how did a psychopathic individual, whose medical history was challenged by multiple health officials, obtain legal recognition of their gender dysphoria? Or, are there any legal breaks on stopping Kardashian insisting on being sent to a female prison?

    Since 2015, the Republic of Ireland endures what is the potentially the world’s most liberal transgender regime, with the country having a hawkish transgender lobby in the form of TENI Ireland. As mentioned before in this publication, TENI has enjoyed favourable coverage from the mainstream press, as well as funds from the Social Innovation Fund Ireland, aka Rethink Ireland, in partnership with Bank of America.

    While TENI Ireland is in no way related to the case of Kardashian, they freely advertise how children like Kardashian can attain recognition of their gender dysphoria on their website.

    It is understood that Kardashian is to appear before Limerick District Court again this Tuesday for further deliberation from the Director of Public Prosecutions.
    END OF QUOTE (and end of the article)

    • Ive read about the Irish “Kardashian case” on To consider having this individual put into a women’s prison is such wilful blindness that I can only expect that pedophiles will next be transferred into youth prisons to comply with “progressive” values.
      As a doctor I wonder whether you have considered this gender identity phenomenon as a Western instance of a culture bound syndrome. After this issue is finally out of the bag it should provide decades’ worth of PHD theses about collective hysteria and such. This environment of collectively pretending reality isn’t true to the point of actual harm seems to me to be the same collective mindset that produced historical crimes like witch-burnings and the Terrors of multiple revolutions.

  • I’ve extracted below something relevant to our interests here from a Lancet paper, corrected version published Sept 2020. It’s titled ‘Sex and gender: modifiers of health, disease and medicine and is online here

    The authors write, ‘We aim to guide clinicians and researchers to consider sex and gender in their approach to diagnosis, prevention, and treatment of diseases as a necessary and fundamental step towards precision medicine, which will benefit men’s and women’s health.’

    They write of ‘Sex as a genetic modifier of biology and disease’, and of ‘Gender as a determinant of patients’ and doctors’ behaviour, and as modifier of health, disease, and medicine.’

    From the second sub-heading, I’ve taken this (Footnote references not included):

    Gender, according to the Global Health 50/50 definition, refers to the socially constructed norms that impose and determine roles, relationships, and positional power for all people across their lifetime. Gender interacts with sex, the biological and physical characteristics that define women, men, and those with intersex identities. [‘Intersex’ is itself a controversial term — BR]

    Gender is not a binary term. It includes the understanding that in many people, traits of masculinity or femininity coexist and are expressed to different degrees. Gender attributes are fluid; more than two thirds of women and men report gender-related characteristics traditionally attributed to the opposite sex.

    In transgender people, gender identity differs with the sex they were assigned at birth. So far, transgender people have generally been underrepresented in clinical studies to date, although this underrepresentation is changing. Gender is an equally important variable as biological sex in human health, and influences the behaviour of communities, clinicians, and patients.

    Gender roles represent the behavioural norms applied to men and women in society, which influence individuals’ everyday actions, expectations, and experiences, including diet, perceived stress, smoking, and physical activity, and affect health and disease susceptibility.

    Gender identity describes the fluidity of how a person perceives oneself as a woman or a man, which affects feelings and behaviours. Gender relations refer to how we interact with or are treated by people, on the basis of our ascribed gender. Institutionalised gender reflects the distribution of power between men and women in the political, educational, and social institutions in society and shapes social norms that define, perpetuate, and often justify different expectations and opportunities for women and men.

    As such, the distribution of gender-related characteristics within populations of men and women can influence health differently than biological sex. Together, these gender constructs determine access to health care, help-seeking behaviours, and individual use of the health-care system.

    [Emphasis mine — BR]

    This postulation is well exemplified in the cardiovascular field, in which women often underestimate their risk compared with men and seek consultation later than men in the clinic for treatment of myocardial infarction. In the GENESIS-PRAXY prospective study, mortality 1 year after an acute coronary event was more strongly associated with gender than with biological sex.

    Similarly, control of cardiovascular risk factors (hypertension, diabetes, depressive symptoms) was better predicted by gender than by biological sex.

    Therefore, including a gender dimension in clinical studies and practice will contribute to the understanding of different clinical manifestations and outcomes of diseases in women and men. Although beyond the scope of this Review, it is also important to consider that regarding health and disease, gender intersect with race or ethnicity and age.

    Sex and gender are fundamentally and frequently reciprocally inter-related in biology and disease.Sex influences behaviours (eg, towards more aggressive or caring phenotypes). On the other hand, gender-related behaviours (eg, smoking, lifestyle, perceived stress and pain, and nutritional habits) might produce epigenetic modifications that modulate gene expression and biological phenotypes.
    Finally the authors state: In conclusion, sex is first and foremost a genetic modifier of disease pathophysiology, clinical presentation, and response to treatment. Gender influences on the behaviour of the community, clinicians, and patients can be considered a social and psychological modifier of disease presentation, and a factor in determining how, when, and why a person accesses medical care. Sex and gender are the foundation of precision medicine, and their inherent differences should inform decision making to promote gender equity in health. — Franck Mauvais-Jarvis et all, authors of the paper.

  • Hey, here’s one I’ve just come across:
    “But above all, in order to be, never try to seem.”
    ― Albert Camus, Notebooks, 1935-1951

  • I hope everyone listens to that podcast whose link was posted by Maria, titled “I have lost my daughter to this cult #transgender”. It’s by far the most shatteringly moving and disturbing thing I’ve listened to in very long time. I’m shocked and horrified at how so many of the medical and psychology professions have betrayed that first fundamental article: First, do no harm. The interviewee here is so courageous, but also so clear-headed, rational and wise. She’s been through so much. I hope she and her family, including her daughter, find eventually some measure of healing and repair. Thanks to this wonderful mother and to Kellie-Jay for the podcast. You can find the link on Maria’s Home Page here at PeakTrans.

  • Nietzsche, over 100 years ago, saw some of the madness coming:

    “Whither are we moving now? Away from all suns? Are we not plunging continually? Backward, sideward, forward, in all directions? Is there any up or down left? Are we not straying as through an infinite nothing? Do we not feel the breath of empty space? Has it not become colder? Is not night and more night not coming on all the while?”

    Nietzsche, The Gay Science, aka Joyful Wisdom, 1882

    • Correction: “Is not night and more night coming on all the while?”

  • Every material object in the universe, including human bodies, has an outside and an inside. Mostly we see only the outsides, including the outside of other people. Schopenhauer pointed out that each of us humans knows ourselves doubly, as the body we can perceive like any other thing in the world, but also in an entirely different way — from within, and directly so. And it’s the only thing in the entire universe that we know in this way, a direct, non-sensory, non-intellectual knowledge (as the late Bryan Magee puts it in his book on Schopenhauer). Everything else in the universe, including other people, I can know only from outside.

    And so I have to infer, of others, from the outside, from observing how they move, behave, from what they say, from their facial expressions, from the clothes they wear, what lies inside. But we can never really know another person in that direct, immediate way each of us knows our own self (without going into the tricky question of how well — or if — we know ourselves).

    So a man may say he believes he’s (really) a woman, based on the women he has encountered in his life, ever since he was a baby, but he has always necessarily known only the outsides (as above) of every one of those women. So he can only ever be talking about externalities and the inferences he makes from observing behaviours, gestures, words said, and so on.

    And much, if not indeed all, of those inferences will be entangled with fantasy, projection and introjection and in a substantial proportion of cases become eroticised, for that is an ever-ready potential with male perception, where the powerful male libido can become attached to almost any object a male sees, hears, touches or just thinks. As has been said before, there’s something demonic about male sexuality, and not just of the human variety: it goes back a long, long way.

    The mind plays tricks and we know this because consider how often memory plays tricks. We *know* this happened, we say, only to find some time later that it never did. Assuming we’re dealing with genuine cases, and not with opportunists of various kinds, a man may with, let’s say, sincerity, believe that he knows he’s a woman. He cannot possibly know this for he knows only the outsides, the external manifestations, the superficialities, but never the inside, the lived, experienced reality of being.

    We’re all capable of deluding ourselves and why should this be any different for transsexual people? How do we know what we know is a very old question, and I’m not sure that it’s ever completely solvable. Underneath apparent certainty there can lurk a subconscious rumbling awareness that our stated knowledge isn’t quite so robustly secure as we like to think it. Hence when others challenge such a person, or even merely asks a genuine question seeking clarification, it can be perceived as the thin edge of the wedge that might crack the entire shaky edifice wide open, leading to annihilation of the fragile ego. And so we get those instances of uncontrolled narcissistic rage, the hate mobilised in self-defence, the threats that to outsiders are clearly out of all proportion.

    Even in the most “sympathique” of cases, we’re dealing with a delusion. It can be a tragic delusion or hedonistic delusion. At best it can be that not-quite delusion, just a valued idea someone has, but always an over-valued idea.

  • Very thoughtful piece by Nick Cave, the Australian frontman for rock band The Bad Seeds, which he published recently in his Newsletter (hat-tip The Scotsman). I hope it’s OK to copy it here, with full acknowledgement and link. His Newsletter is called The Red Hand Files, and this is from Issue #109 / August 2020, link

    What do you think of cancel culture?
    Dear Valerio and Frances,

    Mercy is a value that should be at the heart of any functioning and tolerant society. Mercy ultimately acknowledges that we are all imperfect and in doing so allows us the oxygen to breathe — to feel protected within a society, through our mutual fallibility. Without mercy a society loses its soul, and devours itself.

    Mercy allows us the ability to engage openly in free-ranging conversation — an expansion of collective discovery toward a common good. If mercy is our guide we have a safety net of mutual consideration, and we can, to quote Oscar Wilde, “play gracefully with ideas.”

    Yet mercy is not a given. It is a value we must nurture and aspire to. Tolerance allows the spirit of enquiry the confidence to roam freely, to make mistakes, to self-correct, to be bold, to dare to doubt and in the process to chance upon new and more advanced ideas. Without mercy society grows inflexible, fearful, vindictive and humourless.

    Frances, you’ve asked about cancel culture. As far as I can see, cancel culture is mercy’s antithesis. Political correctness has grown to become the unhappiest religion in the world. Its once honourable attempt to reimagine our society in a more equitable way now embodies all the worst aspects that religion has to offer (and none of the beauty) — moral certainty and self-righteousness shorn even of the capacity for redemption. It has become quite literally, bad religion run amuck.

    Cancel culture’s refusal to engage with uncomfortable ideas has an asphyxiating effect on the creative soul of a society. Compassion is the primary experience — the heart event — out of which emerges the genius and generosity of the imagination. Creativity is an act of love that can knock up against our most foundational beliefs, and in doing so brings forth fresh ways of seeing the world. This is both the function and glory of art and ideas. A force that finds its meaning in the cancellation of these difficult ideas hampers the creative spirit of a society and strikes at the complex and diverse nature of its culture.

    But this is where we are. We are a culture in transition, and it may be that we are heading toward a more equal society — I don’t know — but what essential values will we forfeit in the process?

    Love, Nick


  • This is an excellent article in the Scotsman and I urge everyone to read it. It’s by Euan McColm.

    Trans rights activists are letting down people they represent – Euan McColm
    Marra joins a number of other high-profile women – including the SNP MP Joanna Cherry, the novelist JK Rowling, and the veteran feminist campaigner and writer Julie Bindel

    Sunday, 16th August 2020, 9:18 am

  • The nursing profession is an excellent example. I remember one first class psychiatric male nurse (his wife was also a nurse in the same hospital) who loved his job but once told me that he thought nursing was ‘really a kind of a job for women’ and I think at one time it was usually perceived that way.

    I don’t suppose many (if any) people think that way, at least in this country. Men can make as good nurses as women *as men*. No one thinks they need to try to present themselves as women.

    Writing this brings to mind (from many years ago) a programme aired on British television, although it must have been made in the USA. It was called (allowing for any memory inaccuracy), ‘Nurse is a female noun’ and it featured a very physically bulky male nurse. I suppose it was an early sit-com, with didactic aspirations. At least, that’s how I remember it.

    Impossible to think it could be made, and with that title, today. Very, very few, vanishingly small numbers of people, need to “change sex” for psychotherapeutic reasons. Just look at the profession of nursing.

  • This article is just wonderful. Although it dates from Dec 2016 every word of it is as topical as it was then, and I’ve only just come across — although Maria has long ago referenced the website one PeakTrans here

    I am lost in admiration for the way Lily Maynard dealt with the problem when it suddenly arose in her own family. She steered a hugely difficult course ultimately successfully, with love, tact, insight and the intelligence — and courage — to pursue a very steep learning curve through social media, googling, and the rest of it. In the end I found it extremely moving and heartwarming.

    In case anyone reading here hasn’t seen it, I do recommend a read. And there’s a happy sequel from Lily’s daughter herself, with more about her on, I think, her own site, which I’m about to follow up.

    Here’s a message of hope and sanity in our fraught world.

  • I just had to share this as its hysterical. Is there nothing more annoying on this planet than a man on the internet complaining about hard it is to pretend to be a woman.


    Actual quote: “Transgender people, particularly trans women, are often seen as an inspiration. We’re placed on a pedestal and filled with paragon expectations, so it doesn’t take much for us to become activists. In fact, some people say that every breath a trans woman takes is an act of rebellion.”.

    My eyes almost got stuck mid eye roll.

  • Fascinating and highly informative discussion between Kelly-Jay Keen (“Posie Parker”) and Marcus Evans, psychoanalyst who worked for many years at the Tavistock Clinic in London before resigning in protest against the way the Tavistock’s GIDS was (mis-)treating children and young adults, mainly as a result of the affirmation model.

    Perhaps because Marcus first trained as a psychiatric nurse, his language is completely accessible and down to earth. (Or it just maybe his personality!) It’s a delight to hear such an expert deeply immersed in his subject speaking in everyday language about all the misconceptions surrounding the whole trans issue. It’s just over an hour long and worth every second.

  • I discovered your website last night and commented vaguely on my experiences, but felt compelled to write more on my own peaktrans experience. I didn’t even know that was a word until last night;). Glad to know it exists and my feelings of anger and helplessness aren’t completely in isolation. Back in 2016, I was on some website or commenting on an article. I don’t remember exactly where or which, but the conversation involved autogynephilia, which I, at the time, was not at all familiar with. As I read, I discovered that men who identify as women oftentimes become erotically charged by the idea of themselves as women. Many of whom are straight males who have not committed to full on sex change but become aroused by fetishizing the female experience. Not the female experience of sexuality which is quite different, but the female experience of being objectified. I was really put off by that alone. I mean, it’s not enough to objectify, you must inhabit the objectification and erase its identity to fully express your sexual desire. I had always been on the center to right side (for lack of a better geography) on the pornography issue. I thought Angela Dworkin’s idea that all sex is rape is a little much, but thought her take down of post modern (modern?) validation of the Marquis de Sade via foucalt and his ilk was nothing short of masterful. Now, I think differently. Not only was I really shocked to discover that this was a thing in itself, but that there were transgendered women on there trying to justify the experience by insisting that this was also a prominent role in biological female sexuality. Uhh, no. Women rarely, if ever, objectify ourselves for sexual gratification. Myself and a few other women tried to argue the absurdity of this and were hit with your personal experience of womanhood is not as valid as some questionaire about the experience. I get the difference between statistics and the anecdotal, but never in my experience of being a woman, knowing lots of women and reading lots of literature by women, including erotica, had I ever experienced such an encounter. What the fuck? I am a generation x’er, have honestly never thought too much about feminist theory until recently. I didn’t have to. I didn’t feel it. I didn’t feel the oppression, thanks to the many women who came before me. That conversation made me so angry. So you are telling, that your sexuality involves dressing up and “feeling” like a woman, so you can get your rocks off and then you are going to tell me that it must be what naturally born women feel because if you admit that it’s not, it makes you an agent of oppression and you have colonized that as well.

    • colonized oppression as well more accurately reflects my thought on the subject.

    • Anna Kathleen, very interesting comment which I found helpful. Leaving the political dimension aside for a moment, a person who is autogynephilic, in clinical terms (it’s a psychological disorder) cannot help being an autogynephile (AGP). It’s not something he chooses to be, rather he finds that he is one.

      Whatever the causes (early learned behaviour, hormonal influences in utero, brain structure, are just some of the possibilities written about) the condition involves some internalisation of a very superficial construct, and of course a necessarily wrong and extremely limited one, of what women are.

      A (natal) man, socialised in his formative years as male, cannot really have any true conception of what it is to be a woman. And certainly the phrase, “Feels like a woman” has no objective meaning.

      If anyone reading hasn’t come across them, there are two books I recommend most highly. The first is Michael Bailey’s “The Man who would be Queen” which I think is now downloadable and I think also for free (can’t be 100% sure of that); and the second is Anne A Lawrence (who herself transitioned and was medically trained and is now a counsellor), “Men Trapped in Men’s Bodies” consisting of AGP men’s accounts of their experiences, with Anne’s discussion of their narratives and of the whole phenomenon of AGP in general.

      For men, it seems anything, or almost anything, can become sexualised, invested with an erotic charge, including ideas. Lawrence’s phrase is very illuminating, she coined the construction: Becoming what we love. Again, I’m leaving out the politics of what that can entail in the hands of transactivists, and in this note am not touching on the very real misogynistic consequences that are now well recognised, especially on this forum.

      • Thanks so much for your response. I have already ordered a couple of books you posted about earlier. I, honestly, don’t have any desire to read more about that particular subject. I have a very visceral reaction to it; it feels obliterating to me. I mean, what ARE we to ya’ll? I hate to be judgmental about people’s sexuality, but not all things are harmless. There are fetishes dedicated to roasting women alive for god’s sakes. Why?? I don’t whether things have gotten worse, or I am just finally becoming more aware of how much anger and hatred there for womanhood. It’s just so bizarre. I”m sure you probably have some thoughts on the subject. Certainly the trans movement has crystallized that hate in some very hard to ignore forms.

        • Thanks Anna. I understand and have a good deal of sympathy for your response to the AGP topic. About the hate, the truly virulent and visceral misogyny, one thing I’d say is that many men (perhaps most even if not consciously) have some deep fear of women, and in these cases they deny it. In order to keep the fear out of awareness, they form a powerful reaction to it and to minimise the threat the whole thing comes out as a violent emotion (verbal and/or physical).

          Internalisation of a feared person (actually, the fantasised idea of that person) can be a way of trying to control the fear. And at its worst, it can develop into literally trying to control everything about that person, not merely in some internal fantasy.

          As with most psychological things, there are minor and dangerously major things. A teenage boy or adult male cross-dressing secretly in his bedroom, and keeping the practice there and only there, is one thing, but a quite different thing is the adult man who wants (with menacing threats) everyone to agree with him that he “*is* a woman” takes us into a completely different world, even if the behaviour lies along a spectrum.

          AGP takes in much more than a simple paraphilia like fetishistic crossdressing. It needn’t be about clothes at all, but can be an imitation of movements or gestures considered stereotypically by society as ‘feminine’; absurd and preposterous as it may appear to non AGP people, it can consist in imagined physiological functions, such as pregnancy, lactation; it can include anatomical fantasies, possession of female anatomic structures, and so on. The transvestic aspect is just one possibility, and needn’t be present in the syndrome at all.

          Transitioning or fully transitioned males can get (usually do in my experience) extremely angry with Dr Blanchard, who described this outstandingly well. They hotly deny that there is, or ever was, any erotic element to their dysphoria, and there are reasons for this, greatest amongst them probably being the sense of shame, but closely followed by the thought that if they confess to the hedonistic aspect, they’ll be refused the hormones and/ or the surgery to transition.

          I have no doubt whatever that AGP exists. Whether it proceeds to full-blown transsexualism (as we used to call it) is (I think) perhaps a matter for more research. This is way outside my own clinical area of expertise, leaving aside the fact that being retired I’m likely to be out of date (!) but for what it’s worth I personally find the evidence of Blanchard and of Bailey, and from Lawrence very convincing.

          I think I can understand why many women would find this baffling (to say the least) and misogynistic in itself, probably also disgusting and find themselves revolted by it. But many men for different reasons also find it disgusting etc …

          I’m with those people who want more flexibility in the categories or classes that society so rigidly fixes them into. Boys and girls shouldn’t have to feel they need to try to change sex, damage their healthy bodies and so on. Let girls climb trees, play football, become engineers, scientists (Angela Merkel! 🙂 ..) Let boys wear pretty clothes, aspire to take ballet classes in schools, whatever as long as they don’t frighten the horses.

          The best of this contemporary thinking may eventually prove itself in a more liberal and truly progressive approach to the expression of sex differences, where they exist.

          Why is so much of the misconceiving on the political left? To be kind, there’s the element of people wanting to be nice, inclusive, to make up for past horrors of exclusion, racism, slavery and much worse. But it probably also has to do with some decline in the old idea of class war, perhaps dating to the collapse of communism as practised in the USSR. And as a result, perhaps, we have identity politics to replace the class war (not the latter has totally gone away).

          But the danger of identity politics is that it becomes narcissistic, and people who practise it often see the world in solipsistic ways (cf by the way, in respect of those two terms, one D. Trump). A trans person has constructed (so he or she believes) a new identity. Anyone who doesn’t confirm or authenticate it is felt by the trans person to be in effect denying their existence, especially when the new identity is not securely felt, when they’re vulnerable, and even felt at some level of awareness to amount to ‘killing’ them. Hence all the accusations directed at people who simply want to ask questions — they have to be “Nazis” and the rest of it.

          And so we get those terrible narcissistic rages in response to instances of ‘misgendering’ and ‘dead-naming’.

          But I’ve gone on far too long (if anyone’s still reading LOL!). Enough already.

          All best

  • Thank you for this site. The comments are heartening. I first started noticing how dangerous and dismissive of women the community had become a few years ago. Since, the Rowling incident, I have developed more of an interest. Honestly, only women would put up with this. I do some free lance writing and have wanted to write about the issue, but have been put off by the amount of vitriol and violence directed towards women who protest in any sort of way. I am definitely going to check out the books recommended above.

  • Another extract from the paper I just cited re-evaluating evidence on sex, gender and gender identity (it follows directly from the paragraph I quoted):

    “Nonetheless, notions of gender identity are still contested and raise some ethical questions for professionals working at the interface of physical and mental disorder. Most psychiatrists reject Cartesian dualism, whereby the mind is something imprisoned inside the body, or the ‘ghost in the machine’.29 How should doctors consider the body? We are born as, and die as, a body; we *are* our bodies. How can someone be born in the wrong body? Many patients bring a ‘wrong’ or ‘wronged’ body to their doctor; these may be traumatised, wounded, diseased or disliked bodies. How should doctors react when someone informs them that, although they inhabit the body of a man, they are in all other respects female? We must deal with all our patients with compassion but also make safe medical decisions when demonstrable material reality is at odds with a patient’s subjectivity.”

    Here here to all that. It sparked a few ideas. I would say that a “wrong” body could intelligibly mean a wrong body *”for”* something or other. You might desperately want to be a top basket-ball player but simply lack the height; you might passionately want to be a great violinist but your fingers are just too short; your desire might be to become an air force pilot, but alas you have short sight; and you might desperately feel that you are, or want to be, a woman but your body is, and hence *you* are, male.

    Our minds are *embodied*. We don’t *have* bodies, we *are* bodies. Of course part of the problem with being human is that we can’t think of ourselves as being only animals, and we’re not only animals. We reach for the stars, we try in everyday life as much as possible to deny that we’re animals, we have spiritual sides, art for art’s sake, and so on, and to some extent “we” are often at odds with what our bodies enforce upon us. But in the end, the body always wins.

  • Link below (and on the website page, see the ways of downloading the paper as pdf or html, kindle etc) to Sex, gender and gender identity: a re-evaluation of the evidence, a paper in the Bulletin of the British Journal of Psychiatry.

    or direct link to pdf

    Here’s a brief extract which I found especially topical, although the whole of the paper is a very significant contribution to the discussion:

    “Within current debates, if gender identity becomes uncoupled from both biological sex and gendered socialisation (Box 1), it develops an intangible soul-like quality or ‘essence’. As a pure subjective experience, it may be overwhelming and powerful but is also unverifiable and unfalsifiable. If this identity is held to be a person’s innermost core concept of self, then questioning the very existence of gender identity becomes equated with questioning that person’s entire sense of being, and consequently risks being considered a threat to the right to exist, or even as a threat to kill. Behaviours such as ‘misgendering’ or ‘dead-naming’ are understood by proponents of gender theory to be destructive, debasing and dehumanising.[28] This might explain why the prevailing discourse has become as sensitive and at times inflammatory as it has.”

  • You are probably aware of a lot of this already, but if not please take a look at the material below (sorry for the barrage of links) & please pass on with any organisations or individuals you think might share concern at these issues.

    BBC coverage of Paedophile Information Exchange-
    From the above: “PIE was formed in 1974. It campaigned for “children’s sexuality”. It wanted the government to axe or lower the age of consent. It offered support to adults “in legal difficulties concerning sexual acts with consenting ‘under age’ partners”. The real aim was to normalise sex with children.
    Journalist Christian Wolmar remembers their tactics. “They didn’t emphasise that this was 50-year-old men wanting to have sex with five-year-olds. They presented it as the sexual liberation of children, that children should have the right to sex,” he says.”

    ..Yet –

    & most pertinently (it’s from a fairly conservative outlet, but the article is sound, and actually the most comprehensive and damning indictment of Peter Tatchell’s ‘subtle’ campaign throughout his career of normalising/promoting paedophilia

    The BBC article’s “they presented it as the sexual liberation of children” is exactly the angle Taychell has consistently pursued

    Excellent 4-part series of articles detailing the links between Queer Theory (the ideological basis behind much of the contemporary ‘trans’ movement) & paedophilia –

    Derrick Jenssen on the same connection –

    &, same again, from Alison Bailey –

    “As abhorrent as your beliefs on this subject are, I thank you for reminding
    @trussliz that the agenda of too many within the modern LGBTQI++ movement is not only to smash the distinctions between male & female; it is also to smash the boundaries between adults & children.” – several links on this thread deserve to be read, eg, disturbing event from 2014 –

    Thankfully, we have some people who know exactly what’s going on –


    The Joe Rogan Experience with journalist Abigail Shrier, whose newook, ‘Irreversible Damage: The Transgender Craze Seducing Our Daughters” has just been published.

    I put a comment on the YouTube post, copied here below. Although I highly recommend a viewing of the whole thing, it is actually rather long at 1hr45mins (and could do with a bit of cutting) it really is a very rewarding listening/viewing experience and worth sticking with (I did it over two days). The discussion does range quite widely over the whole trans issue, but, as does Abigail’s book, it focuses on the extraordinary phenomenon of the sudden increase in teenage girls presenting as wanting to transition.

    Wonderful intelligent informed illuminating discussion, thank you both. When I was training in medicine there was this fundamental motto drummed into us, ‘First, do no harm’. I’m now retired and I see too many of my colleagues seem to have forgotten this principle. I’m in the UK and to see how crazy things have got, you’ve only to look at the news stories surrounding what’s been happening at the GIDS, the Gender Identity Development Service, in London’s Tavistock and Portman clinics.

    Joe at one point mooted the possible change that might be brought about by legal actions in the future. There is at least one case pending in the UK and it’s due to be heard relatively soon. The fact that there has seemed to be only one permitted response from a clinician to a patient — affirmation of his, now more commonly her, self-perception, self-diagnosis — is an outrageous scandal. How have so relatively few extreme activist voices come to so dominate society at so many levels, medical, legal, educational and so on? Agreed, social media are one definite way.

    But there’s something else mentioned once that I heard in a discussion I heard with Douglas Murray, whose book was cited by Joe, namely, “We’re over-correcting”. If I understood correctly, society wanted to make amends, as it were, for so many wrongs of the past — negative discrimination in so many areas, homophobia, racism, slavery, misogyny, discrimination against people with physical or mental disabilities and so on. And so people, wanting to be progressive, liberal, accepting, hear some of the raging debate, probably don’t have the time to listen or read intensively (they have so many other things to do) and are misled into accepting the whole package — self-identification (self-ID), male-bodied transwomen using female toilets, boys identifying as girls using female changing rooms in schools, male-bodied offenders being housed in women’s prisons, or male-bodied victims of domestic being allowed to seek refuge in women’s refuges, and the rest of it.

    What many people don’t realise is that far from transactivist extremist ideology being progressive, it’s actually deeply regressive in its exaggeration of social stereotypes of gender. And most of it, as we’ve seen from the abuse directed online against natal women, is profoundly misogynous. Most of it (for example the sentence, ‘Transwomen are women’ and many such more) is a form of real madness. But then so much of what’s going on in the world right now, and I mean politically, is also madness and extremely dangerous madness. From what I’ve heard about Abigail’s book, it’s a real dose of sanity — and a dose of much needed hope.

  • An extract from a beautifully written, fully evidenced, logically crystal clear paper which I recommend most heartily:

    “In light of such conditions [Delusional Misidentificaton Syndromes], we need a plausible explanation of why we should accept:

    [A] A strongly felt feeling *is* sufficient for being a man, woman, blend of both or neither. (Standard Conception of Gender Identity)

    But reject:

    [B] A strongly felt feeling is *not* sufficient for being dead, being reflected as your past or future self in mirrors and being physically and psychologically reduplicated. (Instances of Delusional Misidentification Syndromes)

    To be clear: we are not uncharitably saying that someone who reports a mismatch between their experienced gender and biological sex does have a delusional misidentification syndrome. Our point, rather, is that *if* gender identity consists solely in some type of internal mental state, and *if* that concept of gender identity is going to inform policies and guidance, then we need a plausible story as to why feelings maketh the man or woman (or perhaps something else) but do not maketh being dead, seeing your past or future self in mirrors, or being magically reduplicated. Conceptual consistency seemingly requires, for example, that someone with *Clonal Pluralization of the Self* cannot be convicted of murder because a jury could never determine beyond reasonable doubt which ‘copy’ offed Reverend Green in the dining room with a candlestick or that a thirty something hobby cyclist with *Mirrored-Self Misidentification Syndrome* need only show his significantly older reflection to race officials in order to compete in the seventy plus age group where his chances of winning medals naturally improve. How, then, might we maintain the distinction between [A] and [2], and so, avoid such absurdities? …”

    The paper, by Laeti Harris, Louise Moody, and Pam Thompson, is at and titled
    On Sex and Gender Identity: Perspectives from Biology, Neuroscience and Philosophy

  • A comment on a piece on autogynephilia by Matt Osborne on Gender Heretics, linked-to a few days ago by Maria at PeakTrans.

    Excellent post, many thanks to Matt. As he says, AGP comes in different shapes and sizes. It’s truly extraordinary that Blanchard’s typology and the now very considerable evidence in support of it are not better known. The Bailey and Lawrence books were a revelation to me, even though I had spent my working life as a psychiatrist in the UK National Health Service. In those days, although Blanchard had been publishing since the1980s, discussions, books, academic papers were all about transvestic fetishism and related conditions.

    And for those who weren’t Freudians, Kleinians or Jungians, let alone existentialist Otto Rankians, it was all and only about learned behaviour, ie social conditioning. And of course there was no real treatment apart from supportive psychotherapy or antidepressants for the most troubled people. (I did once encounter a psychoanalyst who relayed a recent discussion he’d had with colleagues as to whether transsexuals, as we called transgender people in those days, were psychotic. Perhaps the concept of ‘overvalued idea’ might be relevant in some instances.)

    The late psychoanalyst Robert Stoller called perversion ‘the erotic form of hate’. That’s interesting in the light of how many increasingly think of trans ideology as misogyny and homophobia (disguised as it is and unconscious as it may be). Could some men be trying to conquer their fear of women, a fear that manifested as hate, by trying to become, and therefore ‘master’, that fear? Or what some Freudians have called ‘the dread of woman’? “I do not fear her any more because now I am her.” But in taking her over, so to speak, he annihilates her. Killing something in himself entails the symbolic killing of all womanhood.

    Oddly enough, as far as I can remember, the very first time I came across the word and concept ‘autogynephilia’ was in the book by Douglas Murray, ‘The Madness of Crowds: Gender, Race and Identity’. (I’m on the left but read left, right and centre — but although I subscribe to the Guardian, that paper drives me mad on this issue: thank goodness for the likes of Suzanne Moore! And there’s still just enough optimism left in me to hope that Owen Jones will be restored to sanity about all this. And by the way, what on earth is Kath Viner thinking!)

    And that chapter in Murray’s book was for me much as Matt describes it in his article, some sort of ‘Aha!’ phenomenon where suddenly everything fell into place and all the old apparent accounts and explanations of cross-sex behaviour looked inadequate: a Kuhnian paradigm shift, if that isn’t too grand a phrase, but it really felt like that. And the feeling grew much stronger the more I read following up on Murray with a course of intensive reading — especially after finding my way to

    At a time when my understanding of CD/TS phenomena was limited to thinking in terms either of fetishistic transvestism or full-blown transsexualism, I did occasionally try to frame the phenomena in terms of Hans Vaihinger’s ‘Philosophy of As-If’ (1911), which was a great influence on Alfred Adler in forming his ‘Life lie’ concepts. A cross-dressing fetishist in his youth, I thought, might say to himself, ‘I am behaving this way, performing, acting, thinking “as-if” I were a girl’. (*If* I were a girl, *this* is how I should think and act.) A ‘true’ transsexual however might, I thought, say, ‘As I *am* a girl, this is why I do such-and-such’.

    Thought of in terms of Blanchard’s autogynephilia concept, “as if I am” slides into “as I am”. But it is tenuous and fragile, there’s a cognitive dissonance, an uneasy rumbling just beneath the surface that keeps an insistent “I am living a lie”, which is why it becomes so important that others keep validating me, why I must insist that they see what I (want to) see when I am looked at and addressed. I only fully exist the way I want to exist when others reinforce my vulnerable (and narcissistic) self-identity.”

    Hence too the narcissistic rage invoked at the slightest chink threatening the armour plating, the ‘misgendering’, the most innocent and sincere questioning of the ideology, the quite violent responses to what clearly, in my solipsistic paranoia, threatens to destroy me.

    Too many autogynephiles (and I think I know whereof I speak) are perhaps unaware that they’re in As-If mode (the most charitable way of putting it); or in what psychoanalysts term ‘negation’, or maybe it’s more like simple old-fashioned denial. With denial, often comes projection: ‘We are not the hateful, destructive, damaging ones — you, our critics are, and you must be cancelled’.

    • It is absolutely crucial that professionals like you speak publicly about this subject. The reason why the public has been so apathetic about this major issue (half the population losing their legal rights!) is because they perceive it as a internal spat amongst two factions of Leftist activists – trans/gay lobby vs radical feminists. Otherwise gender ideology is getting a silent pass as a “next step” for equal rights.
      This apathy has allowed the trans-activists to sneak so many legal changes and institutional/corporate policy under the radar we are almost on the verge of losing the right to state objective reality without losing our jobs. The public needs educating about the Blanchard typology – and the public behaviour of the paraphiliac cohort is so obviously affirming (that word!!!) of its validity that its impossible to deny it.
      The medical profession stands on a precipice of creating a generation of neutered children – after so many medical abuses in the 20thC how is this industry so incapable of regulating its ethics even after the following: eugenics, lobotomies, ECT, sterilization of indigenous women, stealing babies from unwed mothers, recovered memories etc – surely after all these some robust ethical standards should have been established to preclude yet another era or carnage. Its time for doctors to live up to their lofty principles and speak up.

      • Thanks Greg. All too true what you say about the ‘many medical abuses in the 20thC’. And also salutary to remember that when we were trainee psychiatrists in the mid-1960s and instructed in treating patients with ECT, we were also being taught that we were ‘doing good’. And we did think that’s what we were doing, especially when patients incapacitated with profound melancholia and in the early stages of starving themselves to death after a few treatments recovered in a way that could look like magic. But long before I retired, the arguments against ECT prevailed over those pro, especially as the newer antidepressants were safer than the old ones and had different and less dangerous side effects.

        It’s probably the case that many of those medics and psychologists dosing kids with puberty blockers and cross-sex hormones also sincerely believe they’re doing good (at least I hope that’s the case, because otherwise we’re left thinking of cynicism, career fellow-travelling, hypocrisy — and indeed, malpractice).

        And just again to be a bit nuanced and fair, it may well be the case that in some very, very small number of cases (I don’t know, it was never my specialty) medicalisation might be the most therapeutic thing to do.

        An anecdote: Many years ago I lived in a small town where the local swimming pool introduced a mixed post-swim shower facility, one where swimmers of both sexes could shower at the same time but must continue to wear their swimming costumes. I was very surprised at this (generational reasons and so on) but I continued to use the shower. On one particular occasion the only other occupant sharing the ramp, which was long enough to have some half dozen shower outlets aloft, was a young woman who seemed not at all concerned about my presence. Perhaps because I’m quite short and not much of a bulky male?

        There may well be women who might not feel uncomfortable (at best) nor threatened (at worst) by male bodies sharing (invading?) their personal, private spaces, and mutatis mutandis, for males in their locker rooms. That doesn’t change the doubts, misgivings, concerns, alarm expressed by the many clear-thinking feminists who are sufficiently realistic not to be Polyannish about the facts of life.

        Back in that shower, I was as ever the gentleman, but I will confess that I found the experience quite agreeable, to use a relatively neutral word, and that, without going into unnecessary detail, for a mix of reasons, some perfectly normal, others more indicative of the very things Blanchard highlighted.

        Would that woman have been less complacent had she been a mind-reader? Would she have thought I’d committed a thought-crime and reacted accordingly? Perhaps she just thought I was some harmless little bloke, in which case she was correct. But not all little blokes are harmless.

        The thing is, neither she nor her sisters can know or be sure. An attempt at retrospective empathy: what if I had been that young woman? Knowing what I know from the inside about men I’m pretty sure that after my swim, I’d have got dried and dressed and headed for my shower at home.

        Best to recall Plato’s Republic where it’s recounted that someone asked Sophocles if he was still, in old age, capable of ‘enjoying a woman’. Hush man, replied the poet, (or words to that effect), I’ve been released from being chained to a madman.

        I think Kenneth Williams put it more colourfully, something like: to have a penis is to be chained to madman.

  • From Guardian interview (1 July 20) by Emine Saner with Jenni Murray about Murray’s new book

    ‘ … As for the current divisions in feminism over transgender issues, Murray is not going there – whenever the subject comes up on Woman’s Hour, as it did a couple of weeks ago in light of the row over JK Rowling’s comments, Murray is conspicuously absent. In 2017, she wrote an article, calling for a debate about, among other things, trans women’s access to single-sex spaces, which brought a wave of protest (and some support) and a warning about impartiality from the BBC. But with the fault lines so deep, where does feminism go from here? She speaks very carefully. “There has to be, at some point, a sensible, thoughtful, considerate discussion about it so that people understand each other. We all need to be able to talk about these things. What I hate is the idea that debate is shut down” …’

  • I came across this on Twitter the other day, although it was done originally as a nice, eye-catching graphic and I’ve just captured the text (unchanged). Sorry I can’t remember who the original poster is (if someone knows I’d be grateful if they gave the due credit I’ve not been able to). I thought it was a good summing up of all the reasons not to damage an amazing and lovely young body for the sake of a dodgy ideology. There’s a very good word in the medical lexicon for illnesses and pathologies caused by doctors: iatrogenic, caused by doctors, aka meddlesome medicine. Here’s the salutary text:

    When you realize you hurt family members,
    limited your dating pool and career options,
    limited your access to recreation and health activities,
    damaged your body and mind and experience of sex,
    became a lifelong pharma junkie,
    brought phantom pain and scar tissue,
    brought hot flashes and weak bones,
    wasted thousands of dollars and years of youth,
    cut years and comfort from your old age,
    traded one set of expectations for another._
    When you realize euphoria is temporary,
    blood draws and bone scans never end,
    hormones and surgery are cosmetic,
    sex isn’t assigned and can’t change,
    the doctors are just guessing,
    “informed consent” is a waiver of rights,
    dissenters are censored and exiled,
    it’s a homophobic and misogynistic cult,
    you could’ve lived freely without it…
    When you regret transition,
    will you admit it?

  • I’ve been having a look at the book Gender Hurts by Sheila Jeffreys (Routledge, 2014) Never too late for an old bloke to educate himself, tho’ I can’t agree with everything Professor Jeffreys says, but everyone can fairly say that of everyone who says anything, I hope. Here are a few extracts from the pages that Amazon UK has on its website that struck me as particularly relevant to our topic. I wonder particularly what people may think of Jeffreys’ approach to pronouns. I quite warm to the idea, although it could be (would be?) seen as provocative, but it has an attractive rationale to it, I think.

    ‘ … The physical transformations created by hormones and surgery do not
    change the biological sex of the persons upon whom they are visited. For this
    reason, in this volume, persons of the male sex who transgender are referred
    to as men who transgender, or male-bodied transgenders, and those of the
    female sex as women who transgender, or female-bodied transgenders, in
    order to indicate their biological sex. The more common terms male-to-
    female (MTF) and female-to-male (FTM) are not used here because they give
    the mistaken impression that sex can be changed when, in fact, it cannot. …



    ‘Pronoun use is a great concern of persons who transgender. They wish other
    people, including their wives, partners and children, to call them by their
    new, adopted pronouns.The disagreement over pronoun use is a political one.
    The masculine pronoun may no longer, acceptably, be used as if it were gen-
    eric and included women, for instance. I have chosen to use pronouns that
    indicate the biological sex of the persons whose work is discussed here for a
    number of reasons. The first is that the biological sex of transgender persons
    does not change and use of the pronoun of origin indicates this. This is pol-
    itically important, since it is useful for feminists to know the biological sex
    of those who claim to be women and promote prejudicial versions of what
    constitutes womanhood. Also, use by men of feminine pronouns conceals the
    masculine privilege bestowed upon them by virtue of having been placed in
    and brought up in the male sex caste. If men are addressed as ‘she’, then all this
    privilege, which affects their speaking position and may be crucial to their
    choice to be ‘women’ in the first place, is disappeared.

    Another reason for adherence to pronouns that indicate biology is that,
    as a feminist, I consider the female pronoun to be an honorific, a term that
    conveys respect. Respect is due to women as members of a sex caste that have
    survived subordination and deserve to be addressed with honour. Men who
    transgender cannot occupy such a position. …’

  • I’ve been reading two terrific and most timely books by Michele Moore and Heather Brunskell-Evans. The earlier one (2018) is ‘Transgender Children and Young People: Born in Your Own Body’ and the recent (2019) follow-up is very aptly titled, ‘Inventing Transgender Children and Young People’, both published by Cambridge Scholars Publishing. (I’ve read that the editors are trying to persuade the publishers to issue the 2019 book as a paperback because presently as a hardback it’s quite pricey, although by no means exceptionally so for academic books. I do hope they do.)

    The authors of the separate chapters in both books come from a wide range of professional or personal experience and write very clearly even about complex issues without ever being simplistic. The 2019 book starts its first part with a highly topical chapter on the UK’s Tavistock and Portman Clinics, with special reference of course to the controversial GIDS, the Gender Identity Development Service. This naturally leads to the second chapter, on ‘Britain’s Experiment with Puberty Blockers’.

    Virtually every page is filled with factual information, analysis and where necessary refutation of the spurious arguments regularly adduced in efforts to justify what is being increasingly recognised as the abuse of children — however well-meaning its origins, however mistakenly its proponents thought they were being ‘progressive’ and ‘liberal’. (The road to hell is paved with good intentions etc etc …)

    There are marvellously quotable sentences and insights from all the authors. Above all, it’s so intellectually refreshing to see such honesty, clear thinking and real respect for language and the meaning of words as a change from all the self-delusion, half-truths, deliberate obscurantism and misleading propaganda masquerading as scientific knowledge filling so much of our mainstream media as well as social media.

    This is a book for parents, teachers, journalists, politicians and honestly, kids, especially any whose minds have been exposed to the toxicity of much social media, and — I’m sorry to have to say — doctors, psychologists and psychiatrists who ought to know better but so often don’t. It’s also a book for all those people who really want to be nice, tolerant, understanding, liberal but whose best intentions have been hijacked and misdirected.

    I recommend these books most highly to anyone who wants to be right up to date with the facts, figures, arguments. They’re expensive, yes, but if you’re lucky enough to still have a public library near you and they’ve not been made bankrupt by all the cuts, get it to stock these books, or get them through inter-library loan, and let’s hope the staff or management don’t ban them for the usual crazy reasons.

  • Dear Maria:
    What you are doing is very important, there are so many people who are supporting the entire “gender” thing out of a misplaced sense of tolerance that it takes a lot of getting through-to to make them see the reality – society has been gaslit by a small minority of abusers who have falsely hitched a ride on the equality train meant for others. It was by reading your experiences and that of many other writers online that I came to see the truth. Its a shame it took so much sufering for you to bear to make that necessary.
    The only positive encouragement I have for you is to tell you ITS WORKING. The more you are abused by these people the more it becomes obvious what their true colours are and eventually enough will see it – then there will be hell to pay for those who enabled this charade. They will have to bear the responsibility for a generation of medically abused children.

  • Totally agree with you but uncomfortable with your dehumanization of right wing thinkers. Kind of the same as what was done to you.

    • Thank you for your intriguing comment, my dear. Can you let me know what you are referring to? I’m not aware of dehumanising anyone but I’m always willing to learn from my mistakes.

  • You may need to take out a subscription (you can take out a trial one for GBP1 and cancel if you wish before it becomes a regular) to read this really excellent summary of the factual, biological realities. “The Dangerous Denial of Sex
    Transgender ideology harms women, gays—and especially feminine boys and masculine girls” By Colin M. Wright and Emma N. Hilton Feb. 13, 2020.

    Concluding paragraph: “The time for politeness on this issue has passed. Biologists and medical professionals need to stand up for the empirical reality of biological sex. When authoritative scientific institutions ignore or deny empirical fact in the name of social accommodation, it is an egregious betrayal to the scientific community they represent. It undermines public trust in science, and it is dangerously harmful to those most vulnerable.”

  • There is a very onesided article on Forstater and Rowling currently published throughout German and Austrian media. You find it in many larger online versions of wellknown broadsheets. The article completely misstates what both of them say, claiming that Forstater and Rowling address gender identity (rather than actual biology).

    My response, on several online media, explaining rather neutrally that this is not about gender identity, but instead about sex and why it is important to acknowledge that sex can’t be changed, has been deleted by every single website. I have to say I am shocked to the core, as I assumed that at least in the German-speaking sphere this entire insanity hasn’t gone as far. Obviously I am wrong. I believe I just hit peaktrans myself. Hard. That discourse can be so openly killed… WTF?

    • Dear Maria,

      Like Ann, I have been absolutely shell-shocked by the opprobrium against Forstater and Rowling for having merely mentioned an inconvenient biological truth.

      I’m left, however, utterly embarrassed by the fact that this should have been my own “peak trans” moment – because I feel that it really should have come a long time ago. I do not dislike trans people, in fact I am friendly with one and I subscribe to two transwomen on YouTube, but I refuse to deny science or even appear to do so to appease anyone!

      I have been so thoroughly shocked by the uncritical uptake and redistribution of the predominant trans ideology within the sphere of a so-called “sceptical community” online, a community which I felt a part of until just before this Christmas that I really doubt I should have anything to do with them and in fact, I have been avoiding social media since then, largely out of fear of being accused of transphobia. I accept that this does sound absurd, perhaps – but the circles within which I have developed friendships are all so progressive and “woke” that they were full of admonishments for Rowling last time I looked and have frequently been full of praise for individuals like Jenner, especially from women I know. Ostensibly well-meaning women, who presumably think that even an individual with more money than they know what to do with is “brave” because they decide late in life that they want to socially transition…

      After a long break with enough time to look around and read a lot of gender critical articles, I can’t believe that I just accepted this bizarre status quo to such a degree, for so long. There are so many things which have actually made me feel uneasy for the past few years, with particular regard to the treatment of pubescent and pre-pubescent children and other women at the hands of an apparently rapaciously greedy industry.

      I’m very grateful I was able to educate myself about them, but I do rue the fact that it was so very hard to find articles and videos about the “unspoken” side of this particular endeavour. This includes the systematic de-platforming of anyone the least bit critical of the ideology. It is shameful.

    • Is’nt it frightning ? what is it about? how comme on this subject matter are we facing such a global crazy censorship? Is really just about “trans”?

  • Hi Maria,

    Thanks for this site. I was in HS when Title IX became law. I played varsity basketball in the first year of Title IX. It was exhilarating and frustrating at the same time. Our coach was one of the gym teachers and she wasn’t a very good coach because, well, she had NEVER coached women’s interscholastic sports before. We had NEVER played competitively before. We were all learning. It was one of the most valuable experiences of my life and I am 61. I shared this article on my FB page and expressed my strong opposition to trans women competing in biological women’s sports competitions. I had a MAN come on my post and SCREAM at me for opposing this. A MAN! He is unfriended and blocked. I also know a trans woman who competes in cycling in the DC area. He wins ALL THE TIME! I unfriended him, too.

  • It is the children’s section which ends up giving me a major headache. Not about trans* issues, nor about peak trans, but instead regarding feminism, equality and society. And the ORIGIN of the entire thing as I perceive it.

    Maybe I need to explain a few things first. I grew up in a continental European household of an artist father and a freethinking mother. They are nudists (proper ones, not the sexualised thing of later eras), which meant that parents and children (I have a brother) went naked at home and during most of our leisure time in spring, summer and autumn (which we would spend at the nudist place near where we lived).

    Sex, and who is what, were never noteworthy per se. We saw it daily, that there were boys and men, girls and women, what the differences were, and we asked questions about these differences well before we could walk. They always were matter-of-factly answered, and by the time I entered primary school I was able to explain how babies were conceived with all the whistles and bells in place. It was a totally normal thing, and the kids we met in the nudist camp all knew it as well. If everything wiggles in your face, questions arise naturally.

    My brother and I had equally as short hair (very short, very practical), we both played with non-gendered toys (former Lego, chemistry sets, stuff with which to build things, we of course both painted, etc.) and we both had the same outdoors toys (bicycles, skis, we both rode ponies, roller and ice skates, skateboards, football, table tennis). We dressed alike (trousers/jeans and T-Shirts), and I don’t think I had more than two dresses by the time I was four. I preferred trousers and didn’t like girly clothes at all.

    No one in the close family even so much as tried to turn us into gendered beings. If anything I was more masculine than my brother who had and has quite a feminine side to himself. I had girls as playmates, but I also headed a boy “gang” (more a group of children who played together) all on my own in our quarter. It didn’t occur once to me to see an example in the girly girls I played with, went to school with. I saw them, ignored their turnout and tended to be exasperated when their clothes hindered them from joining some mischief.

    Sometimes expensive or elaborate gendered toys like dolls would end up being given to us by grandparents or uncles and aunts (my brother and I each owned a teddybear-like cuddly toy, ungendered), but they tended to suffer severely in our possession. I think I decapitated and dismembered two super-costly biscuit-porcelain dolls because I wanted to look into their bodies to see how the moving parts worked. After that there were no more dolls (I think my mum told my grandmother to please forget it and instead add money to the riding lessons bank)

    Long story short: I was not only a tomboy, I completely disregarded gender and saw no need to model myself after girlier girls.

    And it stayed that way. Even at secondary school and past puberty I did not change my ways. I might use make-up, but that was more in the manner of theatrical expression – sort of David Bowie style – than to be womanly. I kept wearing trousers, and my hair could go from short to long and back, all depending on my moods. Nudism turned me against underwear, I don’t think I ever wore a bra, apart from when needing to go to a doctor, my entire life long so far, I dislike knickers, and I never shaved either. Again, these were perfectly personal decisions, and if someone contended, that was no reason to doubt myself. I simply pointed out to them that this was what I preferred and either they saw it my way – or the highway.

    I turned out to be, sexually, a bisexual butch woman, preferring males, but I am also attracted to women on occasion, and I am equilaterally poly within a mostly closed triad. I hesitatingly identify as genderqueer/gender-nonconforming, though the recent definitions have strayed too far from how I actually feel.

    Without question, if I grew up today, I probably would have been misdefined/misdiagnosed as trans. This even though I like being a woman, liked being a girl, and never questioned my biological sex. I might have grumbled in the beginning about my period, but once it settled, it was like my breasts and body hair simply signal of my adulthood. What I never conformed to were gender expectations. I simply ignored them, picked what I liked, didn’t even look at what I disliked, and no one could motivate me to change that. Also, no one really TRIED.

    When I read all these reports and articles, the descriptions on how these children deemed transgender grow up, and how their peers grow up, then the main impression I come away from this is that children and people these days are being MASSIVELY GENDERED. And it goes largely uncontested, especially by younger feminists. Whether you walk into a toy store, with its horrible sea of babyblue and pink toys, whether such prominence of “princess” movies, the prevalence of declaring girls “a princess” as something to strive for, whether the sexualising of female bodies in all media, whether the demand in some professional fields to “dress as a woman”, or for that matter the enforcement of skirts at schools with uniforms for the girls. I could go on endlessly. These days there is practically zero public tolerance of “butch” and “tomboy”, and very little public tolerance for feminine boys and men either.

    This is, quite patently, not a problem just for lesbians. It is the exact same problem for everyone, including the straight, asexual or bisexual/pansexual people.

    I’m sorry to have to point it out, but it really starts with something like this:

    “I wasn’t particularly surprised that she either wanted to be a boy or believed she was one. She had short hair and hardly ever wore dresses, which meant she looked more like the boys than the girls in her picture books and she was mistaken for a boy every single time by strangers.”

    or this

    “Though initially stunned, we realised that we had failed to read subtle and not-so-subtle signs: the legendary tantrums when she was an infant and refused to wear dresses to parties, the rejection of dolls, the enthusiasm for joining the soccer team at school. All explained at the time as a tomboy phase that she might eventually grow out of.”

    Being a boy is not about “short hair”, “no dresses”, “no dolls” or “soccer”. Being a boy means XY-chromosomes, and having testicles and a penis. And being a specific sex doesn’t at all mean one gender can’t do what the other gender does, with the exclusive exception of procreation.

    If my brother, I and all the other children at our local nudist camp were able to process this mentally as near-toddlers, including the having babies and sex bits, then I see no reason to doubt the abilities of modern children to do so too, if so taught.

    The blame is firmly on the adult generations, be it the parents, or those who are responsible for the currently so severe gendering in all instances of society. If specific clothes, behaviour, toys and sports get firmly linked to one gender, excluding the other from all instances of this, then no one else is to be blamed for the idea festering in childrens’ minds that to get what they actually like or prefer they have to change their sex.

    Where are the modern feminists, mothers and fathers, who firmly stand against our so idiotical and reactionary current gendering in society? Why don’t they see, that they force a lot of round pegs into square holes that way? Why do people feel the need even to gender anything in our current modern world? I mean, we were much farther along this in a civilised manner some 40 years ago! We have regressed (in this and in many more ways) in the past 3-4 decades. This can’t all be explained away with the AIDS epidemic.

    I believe that for as long as we do not question gender stereotypes and gendering, especially the current hypergendering right down to children, the entire transgender problem will not find any solution. What is worse, I have the feeling that there is a current selection against gender-nonconforming children, a spaying of them which will have worse results than we now can even think of.

    • Fantastic comment, Ann. Thanks for taking the time.

      You wrote, “Being a boy is not about “short hair”, “no dresses”, “no dolls” or “soccer”.”

      Of course it isn’t! I hope you realise the point I was making was that these were the cultural expectations at the time and the reason my daughter was mistaken for a boy is that she looked like how other people expected a boy rather than a girl to look. In 1990 many parents of my generation were challenging these stereotypes. I am extremely disappointed that in the years since, things have got worse instead of better.

      • Yes, of course I realise that 🙂 My point is, that no one even challenges stereotypes anymore, never mind actively works against their application. It’s totally crazy. I’d never ever have thought that I would need to explain myself – being in my early 50s – to millennial “feminists” who appear to be completely fine and tolerant with severe gendering, prostitution, and the policing of female bodies. When I was young I dreamed of the current now already being a time where biological sex doesn’t matter at all, only to realise lately that we’ve come back almost full circle.

    • I would likely have been “transed” myself in today’s climate. I had no hatred of other girls or “girly” things… I just preferred short hair because my fine hair snarled and tangled horribly if longer than chin-length. I liked Transformers better than My Little Pony because robots were futuristic and cool, and, as a farm girl, I found ponies highly uninteresting.I preferred boys clothing because it was far more comfortable, had pockets, and didn’t leave so much skin exposed.

      As I grew older, and my breasts and hips developed (unfortunately early – I was 9 when it began, and fully developed by 11), I experienced what would probably be labelled “dysphoria” now – I hated my breasts and wished I didn’t have them. Why? Because men, from my classmates to my teachers, from age 10 to age 75, stared at them. Suddenly I was a sexual object, and I HATED it. My male “friends” asked me to see them in the crawl tunnel at school. They picked me on purpose during red rover to force me to run toward them and crash into their linked arms. My gym teacher told me not to complain, that it just meant that they “liked” me.

      Most of the other girls were cruel as well. “Slut” was a common word hurled in my direction, and angry side-glances became nigh-constant. I was treated, by my peers and by adults, as though the fact that I had grown these large breasts was 1) my choice, and 2) an indication that I was “too oversexed” for my age. If there had been a community active at that time that told me I didn’t HAVE to be a girl? That I could be a boy, bind my breasts away, get them removed, and never be seen as a “slut”for having them, or a sex toy by males? I’m not sure I wouldn’t have transed myself. I’m so glad that climate wasn’t available to me.

    • Great post Ann. You could be describing me as a child (well, without the naturist camp stuff). Absolutely resisted ‘feminine’ apparel and activities, and still do…wearing a dress and heels or make-up would feel very odd to me, although I am straight. I wanted to be a boy when I was little and God knows what pressure I might have succumbed to if young now. I think I am simply a non-binary female. I am happy with it. I am not dying about having periods and secondary female sex characteristics, but I am not going to have radical surgery either. I love this site, Maria. It is a little oasis of sanity in a world where we are losing the freedom to say two plus two equals four.

  • Contains eyewitness info and background analysis re the Brighton trans madness ‘protest’, but actually appears on a NZ-based left-wing and gender-critical site:

  • The exhausting thing is the two front war: On the one side you have to argue against the homophobic/transphobic conservatives and on the other against the brainwashed transinclusive left.

  • Dear Maria MacLachlan,
    I just want to send you some love and thank you for your work. You are by far not alone, but a lot of people are just not aware of the conflict because of the silencing of the “terfy witches, who believe in biology”.

    What scares me most is how uncritical the public masses are. The definition of transwoman in Wikipedia:
    “A trans woman (sometimes trans-woman or transwoman) is a woman who was assigned male at birth.”
    As if the doctors were too stupid to differentiate between male and female babies, as if they could ask the baby if it “feels” male or female, as if biology doesn’t exist.
    And not enough people are correcting Wikipedia.
    A transwoman was male at birth and still is in every body cell.

    We truly live in orwellian times.

  • This site has made me feel much less alone and I’m honestly so grateful right now.
    I started transitioning from female to male 5 years ago and have since been detransitioned for 1.5 years.

    I experienced sexual trauma at a very young age and I think that’s why I dissociated from my body and felt like I hated my body in general. Later in life, I also got diagnosed with BPD and Asperger Syndrome. Now, I can finally accept that I’ve always been a woman, but I’m just not stereotypically feminine, and I’m fine with that.

    Seeing that other people still have common sense has given me hope for the future, where so much immoral activism is taking place in the name of ‘doing good’ or ‘progression.’

    Best wishes to you all, Dax.

  • Indeed. It seems rather contrary to humanist principles to run what is effectively a blog encouraging hatred of any sector of humanity.

    • Indeed what? Was this intended to be a reply to one of the comments below?

      As for your allegation, don’t be ridiculous. What I do on this website is expose the hate of trans activists for those who challenge their misogynistic ideology and behaviour. And, in keeping with humanist principles, I support what I say with evidence.

      Don’t bother commenting here again unless you’re prepared to do the same.

  • During university, I took a class of Gender Studies. At some point, of course, we studied about trans and transvestites, and I remember feeling some discomfort at watching males in short skirts, tops and huge breasts, saying they were better than women and that they could provide more sexual pleasure (?). Anyways, I told to my teacher that they were a perfomance and she just said yes. So, to my female teacher it was ok to support that show and the sexist things those males said about women. And this is the type of thinking I’m facing in most young femenists -I’m 24 years old-, I feel hopeful whenever I find pages like this one and radical feminists, thank you for this space, it seems feminism is turning its back on women and girls.

    • Thank you, Karla. If feminism is “turning its back on women and girls” then it’s not feminism and we shouldn’t call it that. I see it as a form of Mens Rights Activism.

  • Am following the jaw dropping travesty that is Jonathan/Jessica Yaniv’s malicious and egregious law suits against around 16 aestheticians in Canada who refused to wax his genitals at the Human Rights Tribunal. This revolting person Yaniv has been exposed as a predatory pervert with a fetish for periods, repeatedly targeting 10-12-year-old girls. Isn’t it ironic that leading members of the Trans movement have an extremely cavalier and dismissive attitude to the real discomfort and justified emotions of biological women! For example, twitter statements regarding the law suits by Morgane Oger “We all have to do some things at work we don’t like, grow up” etc. Yet a mere teensy word, one tiny pronoun is akin to terrific violence and threatens their very essence, which in turn often leads to permanent Twitter bans to women trying to push back this lunacy! Yet, nothing happens to those rabid trans activists that publicly call for violence on dissenting women, Twitter allows their ongoing baiting to stand.

    It’s an Orwellian nightmare to demand state enforced sexual services and to equate superficial cosmetic treatments as an essential care-giving procedure and forcing women to handle male genitalia against their will. I feel desperately sorry for the women caught up in this dystopian farce. But perhaps, the enormous stress and persecution of these beauticians will not be in vain. I sincerely hope this is the moment when the misogynistic attack and in the case of Canada, state-sanctioned gaslighting will be the defining moment to highlight all of this assault on the very essence of womanhood and finally halt the tide on the war on women! Yaniv and his ilk are trying to enforce the erasure of free will of women, impose state-legislated mandatory sex work. This is no hyperbole! In order to perform waxing on male genitals, the beautician is forced to touch and hold the penis and scrotum that very often leads to erections and even discharge of pre-cum. Yaniv and his perverted brethren are trying to push for legal precedents that will deny women any right to bodily autonomy. Ironically, legally operating sex workers have the absolute right to refuse service to clients without any explanation or specific reason.

    Those who are genuinely suffering from gender dysphoria should continue to peacefully co-exist with biological women and men but there will hopefully be a decisive stop to the unholy alliance of Incels, misogynists, sexual predators and/or men seeking to exploit women and force them to partake in their autogynephilic fetishes. Seeing the culmination of what is the result of warped and harmful gender politics and self-ID taken to its insane conclusion in Canada might be the very thing to help stop the spread of this lunacy in the UK. Maybe this is finally the moment when we can stop this insane rollercoaster and get off this crazy ride!

    • I agree almost totally too, Nina. The one bit I disagree with is who are the most vociferous misogynists. I think it is super-entitled straight males. They’re the ones who want to get into female changing rooms and toilets, get lesbians to have sex with them, push their way into women’s sports etc. Gay men unfortunately tend to ignore what is going on, although there are important exceptions like the young gay blokes who have started up a gay men’s gender-critical fb group and who are staunch supporters of Speak Up 4 Women.

  • I came across this website when doing some research for assistance to help me retransition to male because I’m over the hatred that is constantly directed towards me as a trans women. Instead all I have found is further hatred towards transgender people but this time disguised as website promoting itself as being here to help trans people. Using deceit to inflict further isolation and pain on some of the world’s most venerable people is pretty low. How much lower can you go?

    • Been on the sauce, dear? There is no deceit on this website and I’ve no idea how you manage to interpret the phrase ‘Challenging transgenderism from a feminist perspective’ as “promoting itself as being here to help trans people”. NOWHERE on this site does it suggest any such thing!

      What this site does is link to thousands of articles reporting on the impact transgender ideology is having on the lives of other people but – unlike the many transsexual writers’ whose articles I link to – I guess that’s not something you care about. Oh, and of course this site also provides hard evidence of the hatred and violence promoted by some trans people and their allies. You probably don’t care for that too much either, and I don’t blame you.

      The detransitioning page, by the way, is the most popular page on this site overall. There are many personal stories on it and not one of them gives ‘hatred constantly directed at me as a transwoman’ as a reason for detransitioning, funnily enough, though one does give the hatred directed by members of the trans community at others. I suspect I know rather more about what makes people want to detransition than you do, Emily, so next time you want to stop by and post some hate, find a better excuse.

      I wasn’t born yesterday.

    • Emily Wells is an Australian trans activist who is described as a ” Proud and visible transwoman” on Quora and who only last year was saying how accepting her conservative community in rural Queensland is.

      So how’s the “retransition” going, Emily? 😉

      • Peak Transer I was pretty low and looking for help when I stumbled across these pages. The information here did not help, nor are they designed to be helpful, rather they are designed to further inflict isolation and pain on transgender people.

        After reading some of the postings herein I felt lower with my self worth further evaporated – is that the objective that is being sought? Now as for the unfounded accusation of being ‘on the sauce’ as you wrote. The mere fact that you have somehow read the words ‘Challenging transgenderism from a feminist perspective’ within my simple but yet truthful statement shows that someone was, as you put it, ‘on the sauce’ but obviously not me.

        As for suspecting that you know rather more about what makes people want to detransition (retransition) than I do. From these pages of hate I suspect you only know how to drive trans people to suicide rather than seek life – but that blood is on your hands.

        • Oh cut the crap, Emily. No, of course these pages are not designed to be helpful to those, like you, who are promoting transgender ideology! Nor are they, “designed to further inflict isolation and pain on transgender people.” They are for other people like me, on whose lives that same ideology has had a catastrophic effect. As you would realise, if you’d read my blog.

          “The mere fact that you have somehow read the words ‘Challenging transgenderism from a feminist perspective’ within my simple but yet truthful statement…”

          I didn’t. ‘Challenging transgenderism from a feminist perspective’ is the subheading of this site. It’s what this site does. It’s in big letters on the front page so I assumed you’d read it. The title ‘Peak Trans’ should be a clue.

          The only ‘hate’ on these pages is in the screenshots of the vile misogynistic abuse by transactivists – the worst I’ve seen in six decades. So don’t bother playing the victim with me. My sympathy for lying trans activists ran out long ago and the only sympathy I have now is for the victims of your cult.

          If you want to have a serious discussion about anything on these pages and can manage to do so in a civil manner, feel free to come back. But I won’t be publishing any more of your lying, hateful comments.

      • Kylie after suffering moths of hatred and abuse from but a few people, I have been able to overcome the hurdles thrown in my way and I am now back on track. Retransitioning is a long way from my mind as I know who I am. And since you like researching about me, here this is my professional LinkedIn page as well O’ and by the way I don’t know where you live but if your ever out my way and want to learn about transgender people drop me a line.

        • Perhaps if you weren’t self-obsessed you would care for other people’s feelings and concerns and you wouldn’t be making assumptions about people you know nothing about. I know a few transgender people and come across many more online. That’s why I value a site like this one that tells it like it is and gives the evidence, which is something you fail to do when you spew hate at women standing up to your kind.

    • ‘Emily’ Women are not on this earth to pander to your narcissistic, self-centred, me-me, drama llama crap! I could not give a flying fig about your ‘struggles’. We biological women have real and serious issues to deal with and simply want somewhere safe from the likes of you and other entitled men trying to prevent us from speaking to each other without your ilk trying to hijack the situation and try to silence us. We still have to face real discrimination and danger from men day in and out. We cannot just take a walk without being harassed and have to constantly appraise situations to avoid getting harmed or killed by men. And you have the gall to whine about your self-inflicted shite! Fuck off to the other side of fuck and once there, fuck off some more. I am tired of being nice to self-serving men and refuse to pander to your fetish.

      • PS: I am now worried that my last comment wasn’t really making my feelings clear enough and might look like I am still sitting on the fence with the regards to the likes of ‘Emily’ and other self-serving dudes…. lol

        • Hmmm… Actually, somehow I do sense you’re not keen on Emily’s contributions.

    • LMAO it’s promoting women, not hating on anyone. This is what discrimination looks like; men saying they’re women and being called a transphobe for saying ‘you are a man’. FFS biological reality is not hate speech.

  • Hi,

    It is a real shame, voices like this are not heard. It is not right that women who happen to question the narrative of Trans women are women, are shut down and not allowed to put their points out. It is akin to a religion being beyond question. Like in Iran one cannot question Islam. Generally what cannot be questioned is built on Sand and mass delusion. That every day house wife type women, and lesbians who have dealt with alot of prejudice of all people are excluded from the debate.

    I am a AGP Man. I struggle with my desire to want to look like a Glamourous Female, ala Kim Khardasian.
    I have had this AGP about me since I was about 11 years old.
    This desire to look Female. Does not make me Female.
    In the past I did ID as Trans Female, and would say I FEEL like a Woman.
    I dressed like a Sporty Female. I had some face work done. I slimmed down, and built up my glutes. I looked like a pretty Feminine Man. Yet my mannerisms and behaviour all reeked of White Male, with a Degree who thinks he knows best.

    Reality is no one can feel like a Woman. You are born a Woman.
    Women dont feel like Women, they are women.

    Phrases like Shes like a Man or Hes like a girl, contribute to this whole mess.
    Theres actually alot of variation in what is Male, or Female, just we sadly have created narrow gender roles as humans.

    Some Men may feel the social role that goes with the typical western emancipated woman is something they would either desire or fit into better, however this does not make them Female, in the same way, no Trans Man is really Male.

    The labels Trans Masculine, and Trans Feminine probably fit better. Than Trans Man and Trans Woman.

    May I add I am not against People transitioning, merely I feel people need to be honest about what they are and to be very very careful. If someone is prepared to use hormones, and is post operative, its very different from the typical AGP Male, who 25 years ago was called a Transvestite, and now has co opted Transsexual as an identity without actually being prepared to make the steps neccesary.

    I will say I feel AGP, is not something I chose to be, however I can choose to not feed it, and I can choose to be honest, and not co opt Identity that is not mine. If I choose to Cross Dress, etc. This dosent make me a woman.
    I should be able to use Mens bathrooms without fear of violence. Womens ones, are not for Me. Regardless of how I look, unless I am on alot of hormones, and post operative.

    Now while there is nothing wrong per se with a Man wanting to look Female, as its a free country, there is a problem when in doing this, the Man in question, co opts the rights of Women, and encroaches on Female only spaces. Much needed spaces, as frankly, as the intelligent Chimps that we are (Humans) we have a terrible history of violence against women.

    Society needs to look at
    – Its homophobia and how this encourages non gender conforming men and women to seek out Trans identity.
    – Free Speech has to be upheld. Particually for Women.

    – The alarming fact that those poor people, who through genetics and an abusive upbringing fit the category of Borderline Personality Disorder, are highly suggestable, and may well feel Transgender, when the reality is Transition is going to cause them alot of harm.

    Lastly, I will say I do not have all the answers, and I do feel there is a variety of reasons of why people choose to Transition, however, they do focus around
    DEsire to escape Trauma of Childhood,
    Stryuggles in Social role associated with Gender
    Power and Narcisism
    DID and BPD.

    Thank you

    • Thank you John for sharing this.

      There are a lot of childhood issues that can lead to someone feel like the opposite sex, but that’s all dysphoria is- an intense feeling of distress in one’s body. I was diagnosed with BPD and Aspergers Syndrome, and was inappropriately touched at age 4-5, and began to dissociate from my body ever since. I have now been detransitioned for 1.5 years after taking hormones and I am so many happier now I understand why I felt the way I did.

      People need to learn that things aren’t black and white, most people that think they’re transgender may not be, although some people will genuinely need support to transition. However, the model of care our doctors have at the moment does nothing to help people that are mistaken and are struggling in different ways.

      Your comment meant a lot to me, John. x

    • Wow John. A voice of reason and an opinion that allows shades of grey. A rare find in the internet these days.

  • Thank you (I think!) for linking to Amelia Abraham’s incredibly vapid TED talk. Dear oh dear. I’m sorry that Amelia’s “trans” friend was so mentally unwell that he had to stop coming to her Sex And The City tribute lunches. I think I too would have found myself mentally unfit to attend those events. It doesn’t surprise me to discover that she is an alumna of King’s College London, which i read somewhere (and I’m sorry that I can’t now find the reference) had the most “trans” students. Amelia would, I think, have been at King’s at the same time as leading genderfluid lights CN Lester and Travis Alabanza.
    If anyone feels they haven’t heard enough of Amelia, here she is talking to Four Queer Artists.

  • I have experienced life with an autogynephile first hand, as my ex-partner of two years, who identified as transvestite at the time, is now a transwoman of this type (still with male genital organs and with no intention of transitioning, as with the majority of self-identified transwomen). Whilst I was with my ex, he openly admitted to me that he would fantasise that we were both lesbians, and I often felt objectified, the clothes I was wearing fetishized, and frankly patronised at times as I was cooed over for displaying any kind of stereotypical feminine behaviour (and I don’t consider myself a particularly feminine woman), all of which made me feel uncomfortable as it was not a reflection of how I feel about my sex, gender or sexuality. It made me feel like a prop in a man’s fantasy, his view of women and our ‘essence’, very much coming from the perspective of the male gaze. I have always been on good terms with my ex and supportive of however he wishes to express himself, but as I’ve lately been going through therapy I’ve started to look back over my past relationships and see how much was wrong with them. I cannot accept the demands of his trans-ideology which requires that I acknowledge as fact that they are a woman, to call them otherwise is hate speech, and thus by extension that I am presumably a lesbian. This is not out of any moral objection, but because it is not true, and in addition doesn’t seem to be driven by any genuine belief on their part that they are a woman, but are getting a sexual kick out of on being called one. My lived experience in my own female body as a natal born woman does not appear to be in any way similar to that of this ex-partner. He displays in his confidence to speak out about trans issues all the confidence of the white, male, middle class background that he was raised in, and I hit peak trans after they were ‘transplaining’ to me street harassment as though I, who have lived my entire life as a woman and have experienced this since pubescence, as well as being the victim of a violent sexual assault on the street, couldn’t possibly know what that’s like! Scientific text books are the only thing that should define what a woman is, not a vocal minority of men in dresses who not only insist they are women but insist we fully accept them as such or else suffer threats, shame and violence.

    • Bless you, Jojo and thank you for your enlightening comment. I plan to include more information about autogynephiles at some stage, hopefully soon. x

      • Wonderful, and I wrote this late at night so forgive me for not already mentioning how much I admire and am grateful for the work you are doing on behalf of women’s rights.

      • Peak Trans: Blanchard’s transsexualism typology which includes autogynephilia was shown to be based on faulty research. More importantly even though this has been pointed out to Blanchard on a number of occasions he refuses to accept the findings.

        • Funny how so many transsexuals self-describe as ‘autogynephiliacs’, isn’t it?

  • This site has really hit a nerve and your ‘journey’ mirrored mine. I have over the years been very sympathetic to trans women and their battle with gender dysphoria. I had an acquaintance that went through what was a gruelling transitioning process and countless operations to face, upper body and saving up for the final major surgery to recreate a vagina. One thing that struck me that this person was very wary of the emerging trans movement and especially fellow trans-women, repeatedly asserting that they did not speak for anyone but themselves because despite their posturing in ultra-sexualised ‘women’s’ clothes, they retained a very male domineering attitude to hijack any conversation and to monopolise any debate. And since then my overwhelming experience whenever encountering trans people and really only trans women is that there was a massive pity party competition to trump any of the experiences of biological women. Whenever native women speak of their experiences and especially being victims of male violence, trans women would interrupt and try to make everything about them.

    What slowly has begun to boil my pee is the totally inflated narrative of violence against trans women with rigged and completely unscientific statistics that rely on hysterical hearsay. One such statistics often trotted out is the violence against trans women in for example Brazil. However, these pseudo studies never actually give a prime figure of the overall rate of murders or violent attacks on women in general, especially in the more deprived areas. This makes the trans murder and violence statistics nonsensical. The simple fact is that violence against women is extremely high in Brazil and to ignore it is to ignore the suffering of biological women. An all too familiar experience. Another massive aspect of these skewered statistics is that many of the violence against trans-women happens against a backdrop of prostitution. In order to afford the costly cosmetics procedures that are all too often less about merely passing as female but emulating a glamour look, the share of pre-op trans women who do sex work is extremely high. Even in the UK, you can quickly see the relatively large numbers of trans escorts. However, violence against sex workers and fatalities in many countries that offer little if no protection or rights to anyone engaged in prostitution are disproportionally high anyway. It’s in this context that you may see what appears to be an alarming rate of violence and murder of trans women. However, as usual, the overall much greater violence and large number of biological female victims is conveniently ignored.

    To me the vociferous trans movement is a bandwagon upon which many people jump who do not even remotely suffer from gender dysphoria. It’s the new fashionable movement, many attention seeking gay men with a clear hatred of women jumped on. Merely being gay is so 1990. Where in the past young women fresh into college would snog and dip their toes into some lipstick lesbian experimentation, being gender fluid is where it’s at these days. Your Twitter or Instabrag profile is just too bland if you do not insert some waffle about being ‘gender queer’ whatever the feck that actually means. And this really pisses me off because it not only provides a platform for all the attention seekers but it undermines the much lower number of genuine gender dysphoria sufferers. Women are expected to pander to narcissistic transvestites or former drag queens whose idea of femininity makes Page 3 girls look cerebral! We literally are thrown back hundred years to the most rigid and ridiculous stereotypes of what women should look like. It’s like biological women are fighting on several fronts to retain their identity because on the one hand, we are bombarded with the Stripper chic of the Kerching Kardashians and on the other hand we have the most ridiculous drag queens hailed as the new beauty standard. The most vociferous voices to attack feminists are pissy, misogynistic gay men with a blatant hatred for biological women. And most of all, we are supposed to be a simpering, adoring and fawning audience for their inflated egos. Because men, regardless of who or what they shag, still expect, nay demand that we women shut up and now these trifling mofos even hijack our feminist struggle. Ms Pankhurst did not have a penis. And she sure as hell did not fight for entitled chicks with dicks!

  • I do hope that this important blog you’ve created becomes a positive source of healing for you. You have inspired me to tell the story of how I reached peak trans. I hope it helps others crystalise any disquieting thoughts they may have about the official narrative. At this point I feel like silence is acquiescence, even if I am a fearty about publishing my not-common-at-all-name. (I apologise if this is inappropriately long or in the wrong place, if so please delete it.)

    While I am not (yet) closed to the notion that some individuals will best find their place in the world living as the opposite gender to which they were born my real life interactions with MtT individuals have in nearly every instance followed a disquieting pattern that until recently I couldn’t find words for which certainly didn’t fit the media narrative. I must confess I have never met a FtT person, so I can offer no opinion but a thankfulness that my generation had a wider gender expectations because I am sure that young, unconventional me would have been very vulnerable to being persuaded that I were “really a man” which could only have led to tragedy down the road. If it hadn’t been for Mumsnet I would not have got wind of just how serious this is all getting and I would not have been exposed to the transwidows whose stories finally made me understand my disquiet which has turned into a quiet rage at what’s going on unnamed and so unchallenged.

    I am in some ways an unconventional woman, always drawn to traditionally “blokey” jobs and have never been very interested in defining my femininity in opposition to masculinity. I know I am a woman and am content to exist in my skin. The issue has until recently never felt important to my person. Since it seems the done thing to declare such things these days, I am overwhelmingly attracted to men even though I always wear comfortable shoes. The reason for this prologue will become clear, I’m sure that those of you who have been paying attention to the problem with the trans movement before I had a clue know what’s coming.

    I have one of those “open faces” and am a good listener. If you’ve stood next to me at a bus stop you may have told me your life story without ever knowing that you were going to do something like that. Several MtTs have at one time or another glommed onto me as a potential ally as I am someone who is obviously bad at performing gender. The first few times this happened I was very sympathetic. It must be a very painful experience to feel trapped in a loathed body while also having to battle against societal expectations. An acquaintance would form and then sooner or later (in my experience sooner) there would be a shift in gear. The MtT always wanted to talk about frilly knickers, corsets, makeup, high heels, and how “hot” it is to have a female body at their disposal and “didn’t I like touching myself too,” and they always seemed incredulous that my days don’t consist of “smuggling” lingerie under my workaday gear and slipping off to fondle my own breasts (always the boobies). I would get testy and underline that I am just me and that I am not very “girlie” so if they wanted to chat about those things they’d need to find another audience.

    And then it would start, the critiquing of all the ways I am not a “real” woman, and always, always an attack on my not ample bosom and indifference to cosmetics followed by shock that I didn’t simply collapse at having these “faults” pointed out. I don’t think it would occur to them that I really love my body. I think it’s amazing, capable and beautiful. I was always left with the impression that they thought they dropped me as an “inferior” specimen of womanhood, for clearly I have no agency, I’m just a faulty prop.

    I let this play out several times out of a morbid curiosity. Surely not all MtT can be like that? But each and every one I came to know in real life through progressive circles was. I still hadn’t hit peak trans though it hadn’t escaped my attention that being trans had become faddy among teenagers which worried me as my teens were a time of self-exploration and trying on different roles for fit but that didn’t involve life-altering medical interventions and I felt and still feel this is connected to constricting gender roles. What did it for me was coming across the transwidow blogs and seeing a pattern of male entitlement, rage, coerciveness, and control, which if you took out the trans element mirrored a long, damaging relationship I somehow became trapped in for the whole of my twenties (nobody expects that of a bolshie woman, do they?). It also introduced me to the term autogynephilia and I knew at once that I had met several autogynephiliacs. All those MtTs who had tried to fix me? had been deeply in lust with themselves, why else could they not believe that I wasn’t into fondling own my breasts at every given opportunity? The final hammer blow came from a blog where the writer described going to an event with her then husband and described another couple I happen to have been acquainted with years ago. They were my positive examplar of a long, happy marriage with an out MtF (as I then thought), but this description was not idyllic and it had such a ring of truth to it, the woman being used as a template like by an alien trying to copy how to human. Finally I saw the danger of not being allowed to even say, “not all these trans are the same,” or “a man should not be allowed to deny a woman her own definition of womanhood.” I may just have hit peak rage when a discussion about the worrying renewed rigidity and contraction of gender roles on a formerly favourite forum was silenced by a slew of “denying gender roles erases transpeople” comments. I won’t swear since I am a guest, but I am still seething inside.

    I am a generation Xer. As I came of age I had no sense of how hard the second wave had fought. I was vaguely grateful to them like I was to the soldiers who won WWII (if only history were as simple as it’s taught at school), but they were just embarrassing in the new egalitarian world they’d helped make. Their warning about males colonising women were misunderstood by my teenage peer group (“is this a sex thing? Eeeeew!”) and dismissed. Well, here we are and I have been found sleeping on the job. I should have listened all those decades ago. I’m listening now and am trying to figure out how to help.

    • Fascinating comment – thank you so much for taking the time. x

    • Oh yes to all you’ve written! Thank you

    • I know you’ve said many important things here but I can’t resist telling you that I just love this line, ‘I am overwhelmingly attracted to men even though I always wear comfortable shoes’. I love it!

  • I work with the Community Behavioral Health Services of San Francisco. I feel that everyone is deserving the respect of their own name and identity. I feel it my responsibility to reach out and respectively validate that person’s identity. If that person is comfortable with male/female, other of no pronouns, I need to make the effort out of respect for that individual to use the name and pronoun they identify with at that time. I find that often people who are not familiar with this act of respect are often critical or offended by my request of their prefer. It is not as difficult in San Francisco, but outside of the area people often will respond, “Don’t I look like a guy/girl? What’s wrong with you?” I don’t want to offend anyone, but it is a dilemma.

    • First world problems. Best not to stray out of SF too often, eh?

    • How cute! Mansplaining to the silly gals who don’t want some dude in pig tails with a Lolita fetish in our legally enshrined same-sex spaces.

  • This is such an important campaign, that everyone needs to be informed as to what is happening. This will affect every part of day to day life if the reforms to the Gender Rights Act are allowed to go ahead unchecked.

    I wonder if anyone one of you can honestly say that you are comfortable with placing men, some of whom have sexually violent and criminal background into All-Female Prisons, Rape Crisis Centres, Refuges, and other ‘Female-Only Safe Spaces? Please do not naively think that this is a women-only concern and that because you are male, it will not encroach on your life, because it already has!

    Women who are presently shouted down, no-platformed, and accused of being ‘Transphobic’ by ‘Transactivists’, Academic Institutions, and Political Parties, including the Women’s Equality Party, and the Labour Party, are being victimised, because they choose to refer to themselves as ‘biological women’ and/or lesbians. Women who express the need to discuss important issues that affect them on a daily basis such as Menstruation, Pregnancy, Miscarriage, Abortion, and Menopause are being silenced, bullied, and threatened physically in person and online. BUT be assured MEN, that you too will be accused of ‘Transphobia’ if you believe and proclaim that you are biologically male, and have the right to male-only spaces. You may also find yourself being fined or losing your job, or a position on a committee or board, if you do not adhere to all of these new rulings, one of which is that you must use the prefix ‘CIS’ when referring to yourself as the biological sex you were born, otherwise you will be accused of being ‘violent’ toward transactivists. These things are already happening to women and men in the UK and the USA.

    Let me ask you; if you are a father who has a daughter; are you happy with adult men and boys being allowed in female changing rooms and showers? Are you comfortable with allowing boys to win prizes in ‘girls-only’ track events at school sporting events? Are you happy to watch as a man claims sporting prizes for a sport where women have sacrificed and trained for years, only to be deposed on the podium by a man who has a biological advantage? Are you happy to allow a man into the boxing ring to fight women? What if these female athletes were your daughters or family? How would you feel?

    What if your young son or daughter professed confusion and discomfort in regard to their gender; are you happy knowing that doctors will quite easily prescribe ‘Puberty Blockers’ to children as young as 10 years old, and if that child decides to eventually ‘transition’ fully, they may eventually be persuaded to undergo mastectomies or castration. NOBODY knows the long-term effects of taking artificial hormones for the rest of one’s life. For God sake, the medical profession is only just admitting that the Pill and HRT if taken long-term, may have serious detrimental health effects on women resulting in varying forms of cancer.

    The concerns that I have raised only begin to scratch the surface.

    NO ONE is advocating that Transpeople do not deserve the dignity, equality, and rights that are accorded to the rest of society, because let me be clear about this, they unequivocally do! BUT, this needs to be talked about rationally, because there have to be alternative measures taken to ensure that Trans people are safe and healthy and are afforded exactly the same opportunities in life as everyone else, WITHOUT eroding freedom of speech, and the rights that biological women have fought so long and hard for.

    We live in a democracy and therefore everyone on both sides of the argument should be consulted and properly informed. Do not let the government ride roughshod over you, because at the moment, if you have concerns over the Gender Recognition Act, not one single political party cares about what you think!

  • Maria, I use this website as my main research center on issues of transgenderism. It is an invaluable resource. I so appreciate the work you’ve done here. Thank you. I wish you the best in all things.

  • Hi, keep up the good work! I went “peak trans” a few years back – I had no idea there was a word for it . . .

    I have also subsequently ditched all of the horrific narcissistic trans acquaintances I had the misfortune to know. With two possible exceptions, every one of the mtf transexuals was deeply mysoginistic and homophobic.

    As I keep telling them, there is more to being a woman than a pair of plastic tits, too much make-up and a nasty fake personality. Frankly, I’m more ladylike than that lot. Not that you know me, but if you did you’d know that i look nothing like a woman.

  • I can only really echo what others are saying. I am shocked at the vitriol and misogyny directed at women expressing reasoned and measured opinions about the trans issue. It is an outrage against women coupled with mass denial from large swathes of the Left. If people do eventually wake up to this assault on free speech, I wonder just how much worse things will be by then. You are extremely brave.

  • Thank you Maria! You have the respect and admiration of many. We will survive this hideous onslaught against women and come out the other side more resilient, stronger and with our integrity intact.

  • You appear to be having a problem not with trans people but with the rabid left who are using them as a tool. As a consequence like a bull running at a matadors cape, you miss the cause and attack the symptom.

    Trans people have been around for decades quietly getting on with life, not bothering anyone and then suddenly – BANG! Doesn’t that strike you as strange? It should do because it’s the sign that an outside interest has suddenly taken an interest.

    Renee Richards was an tennis international in the 1970s – didn’t do particularly well (scotching the false assumption that they would) but no one created a song & dance like this website! Why not? Because it wasn’t that big a deal. No one cared enough, and that’s the point.

    There is a cause to all this and it’s not just affecting this issue but several others too. You should be fighting this cause together with all the other groups and not attacking a group who until a few months ago you probably never even thought about.

    The left wreck everything they touch, and then move onto to something else good, and wreck that. They never admit that they did anything wrong, or ever attempt to put things right. This is a psychological condition called Left Wing Denial, and it has been responsible for more non – natural deaths than any other cause. If we take our eyes off them, by being distracted by one of the groups they are using a tool, and as such just as much victims, then we allow them to carry on unimpeded. Surely no one wants that ?

    • Maybe try reading more of this site before making assumptions about me and posting conspiraloon theories.

  • Thank you so much for this. It has become terrifying to be a woman lately. I’m particularly disturbed by the vitriol received from women supporting the trans cult.

  • We stand with you, Maria. Thank you for this richly annotated center for research on the whole complex issue of transgenderism.

  • You are a brave woman. Thank you for sharing with us. You are not alone.

  • Thoughtfully curated and annotated. Thank you for making. I especially appreciate your thorough section on the transitioning of youth.

  • Fantastic site and very informative collection of resources. Well done and thank you.

  • Thank you so much for this, it has increased my understanding so much. I will be following closely.

  • Two half years ago my life changed dramatically. I found out my bf was bi. Not only that but he liked and had sex with cut a long story short, after hvg a very kinky couple of years it made me feel very uncomfortable that all these tv’s call each other ‘girls’.and tbh being a woman in a virtually total secret male world opened my eyes see SO many ‘straight’ (yeah right) men cheating on their wives/gf with men was pretty shocking and horrendous. And seeing their attitudes to women as well!! Most of the extremely promiscuous tv’s r straight acting and their partners have no idea that they regularly have sex with other men.anyway, fast forward to about 3 weeks ago.always feeling uncomfortable with the term ‘gender’ especially being referred to as ‘cis’ i came across really quite by accident, the anti trans movement and the term terf.

    Lets be honest here, there are aggressive people on both sides of the fence. But the absolute bile and venom that militant trans supporters spew out has genuinely shocked me. I started out being ok with trans ppl living their lives, although i have never really been comfortable with them referring to themselves as women and even less so as ‘lesbians’!!! Then u find out that there are little twats out there (lily madigan). At first i kind of supported him as a her, but seeing how he blocks virtually all women who disagree with his pov and talks quite frankly, out of his arse, (and is incredibly smarmy with it) has made me feel so angry that little twats like that can self id and get jobs as a womens officer and be supported by a man i used to respect (Jeremy Corbyn) that i have done a total u turn. Well almost!

    I do feel that if a man goes through the whole process INCLUDING surgery, then i feel they have won the right to b referred to as a woman. But ONLY under those circs. They will never be a female, but to me it shows the depth of feeling that i think should be respected by us. But anything less, and especially the idea of self ID is just insanity and a total and utter insult, not only to women, but to other TW who have gone through the whole ‘transition’ process. Some of you wont agree with my last statement, i know that. But i do think that we as a movement need to show willing here. To totally block any circumstances of a man who really is unhappy living as such, from going through a system of full change i think is wrong. It isnt democratic. But anything less than full transition is unacceptable. Sorry for my waffle!

    • *I do feel that if a man goes through the whole process INCLUDING surgery, then i feel they have won the right to be referred to as a woman. But ONLY under those circs. They will never be a female, but to me it shows the depth of feeling that i think should be respected by us.*

      I disagree Scarlett – I feel they have the right to be called a transwoman. I am reluctant to share the name that is given to my biological sex and my socialised history to a subset of males who have undergone surgery to outwardly appear similar to me. Much less try to re-identify me by adding the pre-fix cis or natal to distinguish me whilst commandeering the ‘identity’ of woman for themselves.

    • As a Transwoman myself, I cannot agree with ever calling us women, we are not women, yet at the same time we arent really “men” … me and many other transsexuals are just fine being called Transwomen, thank you. its a part of our culture, getting rid of our terms (just like in the case of men taking the word woman) you are effectively taking away our culture, experiences, etc… from us.

      so no, as a Transwoman i would never call myself, or other Transwoman, a “woman”

      • Alina, I have the utmost respect for your comment and really appreciate this point of view. I am also concerned that the vociferous ‘trans allies’ harm you rather than support you. I witnessed transwomen with similar opinions being shouted down, completely ignored or being ousted by those who aren’t actually trans. We women share this same plight.

  • Thank you for this. I have had nasty responses and been added to lists such as c**t and TERF for commenting and liking on Twitter. Your site has answered so many questions and helped me to understand just why I have felt so uncomfortable about a lot of what I read about male transgendering. I will support and keep reading.

  • Thanks for doing this. We’re with you. Your curating of all your research here will help us all.

  • We stand with you. Thank you.

  • Excellent. Thanks!

  • Thank you

  • Thank you and will be watching.

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