As I said in My Peak Trans Story, my years of experience working on a helpline for suicidal people taught me that some men are sexually aroused by fantasising that they are a woman. These men, by the way, were a very small minority of a very large group of nuisance callers, known as ‘sex-callers’. Every woman – and, I dare say, quite a few men – who ever volunteered for the Samaritans will have had experience of callers trying to take advantage of their good will and get sexual gratification without having to provide a credit card number.
Back then I didn’t know that this particular phenomenon was called autogynephilia (often abbreviated online to AGP), which is defined as: “A male’s propensity to be sexually aroused by the thought of himself as a female. It is the paraphilia that is theorized to underlie transvestism and some forms of male-to-female (MtF) transsexualism. Autogynephilia encompasses sexual arousal with cross-dressing and cross-gender expression that does not involve women’s clothing per se. The concept of autogynephilia defines a typology of MtF transsexualism and offers a theory of motivation for one type of MtF transsexualism. Autogynephilia resembles a sexual orientation in that it involves elements of idealization and attachment as well as erotic desire. Nearly 3% of men in Western countries may experience autogynephilia; its most severe manifestation, MtF transsexualism, is rare but increasing in prevalence.”
Source: Autogynephilia: an underappreciated paraphilia. Anne A. Lawrence, Department of Psychology, University of Lethbridge, Lethbridge, Alta., Canada
Although many trans people are openly autogynephiliac and they have their own support forum on Reddit, other trans people still deny that autogynephilia exists. One commented on this site recently, suggesting it has been debunked. But, in addition to the personal accounts in articles and videos, the pictorial evidence for autogynephilia is posted daily on social media.
It’s high time I put up a page for the links and videos I’ve collected on the subject.
Ode to Autogynephilia
In 2016 James Shupe became the first person in the U.S. to be legally designated as non-binary but he is now back to identifying as a man and has been open about his autogynephilia. With his kind permission, I am reproducing here this poem that is published on his website.
She’s the woman you love and the woman is you
With each binge and purge, your desire for her continued to surge
To escape her allure, you took a wife
Vowing to change by building a new life
To ensure she stayed gone, you fathered a child
None of that matters now, she’s back and it’s time to go wild
As your daughter clings to her mother
Your wife explains, you’ve left them for another
All these years, you’d kept your love for her pushed down
But now you’re being seen with her out on the town
Since the divorce, your closets are no longer male
You’ve unleashed that inner female
But being with her has its rules
So to show your commitment, you remove the family jewels
Only to find, that your love for her is no longer divine
From the comments page of this website: I have experienced life with an autogynephile first hand
A good list of articles appear on this site Everything You Never Wanted to Know About Autogynephilia but Were Afraid You had to Ask Gender.Psychology.org 2008
Video: Autogynephilia/The Normalization of a Paraphilia for Corporate Profit and Control Jennifer Bilek 07.12.20
Domestic Abuse Related to Late-Transitioning Partners, Part I: Coercive Control Uncommon Ground 03.11.20
Today in ‘Autogynephilia Doesn’t Exist’ Gender Heretics 30.06.20
Steven Appleby: ‘Why I felt liberated when I started dressing as a woman’ Stephen Appleby 05.04.20
Gender identity is bollocks Debbie Hayton 04.04.20
What Is Autogynephilia? An Interview with Dr Ray Blanchard Louise Perry 06.11.19
Against the “Feminine Essence” Jane Robbins 23.10.19
The Elephant In The Room Sue Donym 04.01.19
Gender dysphoria is not one thing J. Michael Bailey, Ph.D and Ray Blanchard, Ph.D 07.12.17
A History of Autogynephilia Miranda Yardley 11.06.17
On the Science of Changing Sex Kay Brown 24.04.17
What Autogynephilia is, and what is it not; a brief note Miranda Yardley 30.08.16
17 Signs I Am An Autogynephile And Didn’t Know It (some comments on an article) Miranda Yardley 10.07.16
The faces of autogynephilia reblogged on Tumblr from Autogynephiliac Truth 09.05.15
Gas Mark Six “He was a textbook autogynephyle” NaeFearty 22.07.14
“But there’s no such thing as autogynephilia!”: Phone Sex, the Male Gaze, and How Blanchard and Trans* Activists Both Get It Wrong Culturally Bound Gender 27.04.13
Do Some Men Who Desire Sex Reassignment Have a Mental Disorder?
Comment on Meyer-Bahlburg (2010) Anne A Lawrence 20.11.11
Transgenderism in non-homosexual males as a paraphilic phenomenon Anne A Lawrence 19.10.09
Shame and Narcissistic Rage in Autogynephilic Transsexualism (pdf) Anne A Lawrence 23.04.08
Everything You Never Wanted to Know About Autogynephilia but Were Afraid You had to Ask Gender.Psychology.org 2008
Autogynephilia: A Paraphilic Model of Gender Identity Disorder (pdf) Anne A Lawrence 2004
A trailer for a celebrated documentary called, ‘Why can’t I be me around you?” about an AGP transgender mechanic called Rusty Tindenberg can be seen here. Watch and weep.
Autogynephilia: The Truth A young man describes what it’s like to be an autogynephile.
Transgender: an overview of autogynephilia Rod Fleming
Transgender: the autogynephile fantasy Rod Fleming
Source: Transgenderism: A Pathogenic Meme 10.06.15