CHILDREN

I recall seeing a cartoon by a great cartoonist called Kathryn Lamb, which shows a teacher standing at the front of her class and asking those who are the same sex this term as last term to put their hands up. We all get the joke these days but it wouldn’t have made any sense when my kids were little.

When my daughter was in her third year of life, she announced she was a boy. Her brother ­put her straight. He was the big boy in the family and she was the little girl. She wasn’t best pleased and argued that she could be a boy if she wanted to.

I wasn’t particularly surprised that she either wanted to be a boy or believed she was one. She had short hair and hardly ever wore dresses, which meant she looked more like the boys than the girls in her picture books and she was mistaken for a boy every single time by strangers. What’s more, she didn’t know any girls. She had one older brother – two years her senior – and there was a dearth of girls her age amongst friends and neighbours, so all her playmates were boys. She would share a bedtime bath with her brother, so she knew they had different genitalia. But at that age she didn’t understand what that difference meant or what being a girl meant.

I responded to her declaration by telling her that she was in fact a girl, that there was no reason to want to be a boy because a girl could do everything a boy could do, that I was a girl myself albeit now grown up. Soon afterwards she started pre-school playgroup, where she met other little girls and that was the end of the matter. She was never a girly girl but she never again expressed a desire to be anything other than a girl. Whether she spent her childhood as I’d spent my own, secretly hating the fact that she was a girl, I don’t know.

That was back in 1990. I wonder if, in today’s climate, whether anyone would have suggested she might actually be a boy born in the wrong body and, if so, whether she would have latched onto the idea and refused to let it go. This article, which describes a girl whose behaviour – rejecting dolls, playing football, etc – sounds exactly like my daughter’s, inclines me to think she would have. It actually doesn’t bear thinking about and my heart breaks for all parents who find themselves in this situation. I admit I find it hard not to judge those who take a different approach to the one I think I would have taken.

On this page I put links to websites of adults – parents, professionals and anyone else with something relevant to say – who are concerned with the rise in the number of children who want to transition, as well as to the stories of families who are going through it and to an assortment of articles, the inclusion of which isn’t intended to imply endorsement.

 

Campaigning, Support and Advice

“4thWaveNow was started by the mother of a teenage girl who suddenly announced she was a “trans man” after a few weeks of total immersion in YouTube transition vlogs.  (The daughter has since desisted from identifying as transgender.) After much research and fruitless searching for an alternative online viewpoint, this mom began writing about her deepening skepticism of the ever-accelerating medical and media fascination with the phenomenon of “transgender children.”

4thWaveNow has now expanded to feature not only the writing of the founder of this blog, but that of other parents, formerly trans-identified people, and people with professional expertise and experience with young people questioning their gender identity.”

One of the most moving stories I’ve ever read comes from a tireless campaigner called Lily Maynard, whose story about what she and her daughter went through is on both the 4thWaveNow site and on her personal blog. It heads the list of real life stories lower down this page.

4thWaveNow

 

“We are a group of parents based mainly in the UK, who are concerned about the current trend to diagnose ‘gender non-conforming’ children as transgender. We reject current conservative, reactionary, religious-fundamentalist views about sexuality and we have no political affiliation. We are also concerned about legislation which places transgender rights above the right to safety for girls and young women in public bathrooms and changing rooms.”

Transgender Trend

Click here to go straight to the page to download the Schools Resource Pack produced by Transgender Trend – the one that Stonewall representatives have been trying desperately to persuade teachers to dispose of without even reading it!

 

“We are a group of parents whose children have suddenly—seemingly out of the blue—decided they identify strongly with the opposite sex and are at various stages in transitioning. This is a new phenomenon that has only recently been identified. Researchers are calling it Rapid-Onset Gender Dysphoria (ROGD), and it is epidemic among our most vulnerable youth.

Our children are young, naïve and impressionable, many of them are experiencing emotional or social difficulties. They are strongly influenced by their peers and by the media, who are promoting the transgender lifestyle as popular, desirable and the solution to all of their problems. And they are being misled by authority figures, such as teachers, doctors and counselors, who rush to “affirm” their chosen gender without ever questioning why.”

Parents of ROGD kids

 

“The Gender Critical Support Board is run for parents and families by parents and families who share the experience of coping with a child, teenager or young adult who believes she or he is transgender.
We are critical of the phenomenon of transgender youth growing at epidemic rates.
The forum provides support for parents and families who would like a thoughtful and cautious approach to intervention for their gender dysphoric child.”

Gender Critical Support Board

 

TV Documentary: Transgender Kids: Who Knows Best?

A fascinating and, in my opinion, well-balanced BBC documentary giving both sides of the argument. It was pulled from the viewing schedule at very short notice by the Canadian Broadcasting Corporation. It can be viewed here on GenderTrender.

Related pieces:

Transgender Kids: why doctors are right to be cautious about childhood transition Sarah Ditum New Statesman

See Lady AntiTheist’s story ‘FTMTF’ in personal stories below

“The BBC Two documentary Transgender Kids: Who Knows Best? won’t be broadcast until 9pm this evening, but that hasn’t stopped a lot of people from forming very firm opinions about it. There has been the inevitable petition, and yesterday, the Guardian published a critical article stating that “the transgender community is ‘very scared and very worried’” by a programme that no one interviewed had, as yet, seen.”

Statistics faulty on how many trans- kids grow up to stay trans? Dr James Cantor

“The National Post recently covered the CBC’s cancellation of a BBC documentary about transgender children (Why CBC cancelled a BBC documentary that activists claimed was ‘transphobic’). In that coverage, the Post shared claims made by some activists criticizing some scientific studies, but did not apparently fact-check those claims, so I thought I would outline the studies here.”

CBC’s decision against airing Transgender Kids doc should leave everyone unsettled Dr Debra Soh

“Supporting transgender people, including their right to dignity, support and medical intervention, isn’t at odds with taking a scientifically guided approach to determining the best outcomes for children. But as is commonly the case with political movements, these nuances only complicate the narrative and cede opportunities for activists to gain further ground.

Those complicit in the silencing of legitimate science have lost sight of the forest for the trees. The issue is no longer about what’s in the best interest of these children, but about winning, at any cost, the ideological war.”

 

Articles from blogs, newspapers and journals

How many transgender kids grow up to stay trans?

“This is going to be a very nerdy post that will be indecipherable to anyone not at least knee-deep in the debate over childhood gender dysphoria persistence and desistance, so I’ll just jump right to the point: Just about everyone, myself included, has been misreading the single biggest published study on this subject in an important way.”

 

Common Threads And Narratives of Transgender Children And What This Means For Our Lesbian And Gay Populations Miranda Yardley

“there is a real danger that gender non-confirming behaviour in children is being interpreted not as this being a child who will grow up to be homosexual, rather our feminine boys and masculine girls are being perceived to be and treated as being ‘transgender’.”

 

Desistance: The missing piece in the conversation about ‘transgender kids’ Jesse Singal

“Part of problem is that some people don’t accept the desistance findings at all — they argue that the studies demonstrating high levels of desistance in gender-dysphoric kids are fatally flawed, and further that the very concept of desistance itself is really just a pretense for allowing bigots to deny the reality of trans people’s identities. This is understandable, in light of the very real discrimination trans people face every day and past misdeeds committed by the mental-health Establishment, but it’s also unfortunate: We can’t have an intelligent, informed discussion about these tricky issues if we’re going to ignore what is, at the moment, a solid scientific consensus.”

 

Do trans kids stay trans when they grow up? Dr James Cantor

Despite the differences in country, culture, decade, and follow-up length and method, all the studies have come to a remarkably similar conclusion: Only very few trans- kids still want to transition by the time they are adults. Instead, they generally turn out to be regular gay or lesbian folks. The exact number varies by study, but roughly 60–90% of trans- kids turn out no longer to be trans by adulthood.”

 

Eugenics and the practice of transgendering children Sheila Jeffreys

“There are similarities between the eugenic sexual surgeries and drug treatments of the past and the transgendering of children now. The ideas for both treatments come from scientists of sex such as biologists, endocrinologists and psychiatrists. Both practices are based on the idea that certain problematic behaviours have a biological basis and can be “cured” by treatments which alter sexual characteristics.”

 

14-year-old girl surgically mutilated for “gender” in California The Truth About Autogynephilia Truth blog

“Samantha, a girl born with fetal alcohol syndrome and other issues, was adopted as a baby by a couple in San Diego. Now, at age 14, she insists she’s a boy. Today, Samantha’s double mastectomy was announced to the world.”

 

How Conversion Therapy Bans Will Trap Transgender Children Marcus Gregory

“While attempts to make gays straight may have little value, that little “or gender identity” nonchalantly added to the end is a live grenade. In disguised language, it ensures no American child unhappy with his or her natural sexed body will have access to therapy other than drastically changing the body.”

 

How many transgender kids grow up to stay trans? Dr James Cantor

“The National Post recently covered the CBC’s cancellation of a BBC documentary about transgender children (Why CBC cancelled a BBC documentary that activists claimed was ‘transphobic’). In that coverage, the Post shared claims made by some activists criticizing some scientific studies, but did not apparently fact-check those claims, so I thought I would outline the studies here.”

 

How trans kids and their parents are deciding when to start medical transition Vice News

“As the debate continues over which bathroom transgender people should use, families and doctors are rewriting the rules as they decide when and how to start medical intervention, with some deciding to start before transgender youth hit puberty.”

 

How 800 children as young as 10 have been given sex change drugs Mail on Sunday

Huge rise in puberty-blocker jabs revealed as transgender 17-year-old who was born a boy claims the NHS treatment saved her life.

 

Is it a Myth that the Vast Majority of Gender Dysphoric Children Desist? Paul Dirks

“Recently there has been an increasing number of articles claiming that the high desistence rates of gender dysphoric children is a myth. Brynn Tannehill, Zack Ford and Zinnia Jones are a few of the authors) that take on one of the most robust findings of the literature concerning gender dysphoria) namely that in the vast majority of children the dysphoria will go away in adolescence)”

 

Meet Alex Bertie, the transgender poster boy Janice Turner

“A woman I will call Dr K expresses years of frustration dealing with an unacknowledged epidemic of dysphoric teenage girls. ‘They are all the same, dozens and dozens of them. Short hair, boys’ clothes, probably liked rough and tumble play as small children. Now they like comic books or skateboarding or video gaming. Geeky, gauche, not many friends. They came out as lesbians, but then they went on Reddit and Tumblr and saw these transitioning videos. They decide they are trans. Suddenly they get lots of attention with everyone calling them by a new name, they get to chide anyone who uses the wrong pronoun while everyone tells them they are brave. They might get a special assembly at school.'”

 

Minority of children with gender issues diagnosed with gender dysphoria Brisbane Courier-Mail

“MANY children and adolescents are identifying as transgender because they are confused about sexuality or think it will make them “different”. Psychiatrist Dr Stephen Stathis, who runs a gender clinic, said he had seen girls who had been sexually abused and wanted to identify as transgender.
“The girls say, ‘If only I had been a male I wouldn’t have been abused’,’’ Dr Stathis said.”

 

Misunderstanding a New Kind of Gender Dysphoria Lisa Marchiano

“A year ago, as a result of a blog post I wrote, I began offering consultations to parents of teens who had announced “out of the blue” that they were transgender. Each week, several new families made contact with me, and their stories are remarkably similar to one another. Most have 14 or 15-year-old daughters who are smart, quirky, and struggling socially. Many of these kids are on the autism spectrum.”

 

NHS pressured our kids to change sex Daily Mail

“Hundreds of alarming stories have been posted over the past two months on an online forum set up by a father who says his teenage daughter is making a mistake in seeking to change gender. The father, who asked to remain anonymous, said: ‘The universal experience [of the parents] is that whether the child has been diagnosed with autism, depression or ADHD, the therapists are completely discounting any other symptoms.’”

 

Nearly 2,000 children referred for help with gender identity The Times (paywall)

“According to data released by the Gender Identity Development Service, commissioned by NHS England, 1,986 people under 18 were referred and accepted for specialist treatment in the past year, compared with 94 in 2009-10. The youngest were aged just three, with seven children that age referred since 2009. The most common age at referral was 16, accounting for 24 per cent of all cases since 2009.”

 

NHS sex change drugs are putting hundreds of children at risk each year warns top doctor who says medication could lead them infertile or cause sexual dysfunction

“In an interview with The Mail on Sunday, Dr Griffin reveals that:

Patients are being given drugs to change sex after claiming they are transgender, despite having serious psychiatric conditions;
The NHS is ‘running scared’ of challenging requests for transgender treatments in case it is accused of bigotry.

Medicines being given to teenagers to help them change gender can render them infertile, cause osteoporosis and result in sexual dysfunction, Dr Griffin warns.”

 

Number of children being referred to gender identity clinics quadrupled in five years The Telegraph

“Children – encouraged by their experiences at school – are beginning to question their gender identity at ever younger ages. In doing more than just supporting transgender children, and instead sowing confusion about gender identity, schools do neither boys nor girls any favours.”

 

Official Guidance Lets Kids Down Jo Bartosch

“At the root of this issue is the definition of ‘gender’ itself. For old school feminists like me ‘gender’ is a term to describe sexist societal norms, but for many of those who identify as transgender it is a deeply held sense of self. Look through any of the plethora of online ‘trans coming out’ videos and you’ll find the narratives are strikingly similar; there are almost always descriptions of body hatred and a childhood preference for the toys and clothes socially associated with the opposite sex. How can we fight sexist stereotypes if they are also the foundations of some people’s identity?”

 

Parents Just Lost Custody of Teenage Daughter Who Wants to ‘Transition’ to a Boy: What You Need to Know Ryan T. Anderson

“Parents in Ohio lost custody of their 17-year-old daughter Friday because a judge ruled that she should be allowed to receive therapy, including testosterone therapy, to identify as a boy.

Without commenting on the specifics of this case just outside Cincinnati, Americans can expect to see more cases like it as government officials side with transgender activists to promote a radical view of the human person and endorse entirely experimental medical procedures. At stake are not only parental rights, but the well-being of children who suffer from gender dysphoria”.

 

Popularity of tomboys is encouraging girls to swap gender, says NHS psychologist The Telegraph

“There have been different ideas put forward. Some people have talked about how it is easier for girls to cross-gender identify because it’s a positive image to be a tomboy.”People are also wondering what it is to be a female at the moment and whether that’s something that is a cause for concern for young people.”

 

Professor Robert Winston joins the transgender debate and shares his concerns for young children Transgender Trend 

“In an interview on the Today programme on BBC Radio 4 (and also reported in the Telegraph) Professor Winston expressed his concerns that we do not yet know enough about what happens in the cognitive development of children to cause their gender discomfort. This makes it very difficult to know how best to support them. He spoke about how the brain is reassigning itself in a major way during puberty and how we don’t really know the long-term effects of intervening in that process for young children who present with gender issues.

 

Schools rushing ‘on whisper’ to label pupils as transgender Sian Griffiths, The Times

“If a school just gets a whisper of a child who may be querying their gender and within minutes they are doing everything to make sure that child is regarded as a member of the opposite sex right from the word go — that may not be the best for that child.”

 

Schools accused of ‘sowing confusion’ in children’s minds by over-promoting transgender issues Daily Telegraph

“Teaching subject knowledge becomes blurred with the promotion of particular values. At the forefront of this are political goals concerned with encouraging children to think about gender and sexuality in new ways. The role of the teacher becomes policing the values, thoughts and language of children to bring them in line with one particular ideological position.”

 

“Should I take testosterone when I’m 16?” Lisa Marchiano

“A few weeks ago, I received a very thoughtful email from someone who had read my blog. This young person suffers from gender dysphoria and is considering taking testosterone upon turning 16. We agreed together that I would answer the email here on my blog, in public.”

 

Teacher accused of ‘misgendering’ child was told by police that she committed a hate crime Daily Telegraph

A teacher who was accused of “misgendering” a child was told by police that she had committed a hate crime. The teacher, who claimed they were a “grammatical purist”, refused to acknowledge that the pupil self-identified as a boy and failed to use the pupil’s preferred pronouns of “he” or “him”.

 

Teacher Roy Wilkes wins fight over ‘transphobic’ comments The Times

“Another wrote that “transphobic posts on the union’s Facebook page have been really impacting my levels of dysphoria”. They said that when Wilkes wrote that he did not agree that trans women were women “that comment made me feel physically sick and the palpitations that I’ve been suffering from started again”.”

 

The Conservative Gendered Stereotyping of Children, Radical Feminism and transgenderism Louise Pennington

“I cannot see anything liberating about forcing children into categories of boy/girl based solely on whether or not they like trains or tutus – and all the subsequent medical interventions – or the entirety of the bigender/agender/ genderqueer constructions that continue to reify the sex based hierarchy rather than challenging them.”

 

Transgender fetish is a truly shameful modern invention Stuart Waiton

“Of course, one of the ironies of transgenderism is that rather than liberating gender, it is a caricature of it. “Don’t like all things pink and frilly? That must mean you’re a boy. Don’t like football and fighting? You must be a girl.” The transgender trend is not only inward looking — it is profoundly conservative.”

 

Transing children & the myth of an unbiased medical establishment Louise Pennington

“Since any discussion of the potential consequences of puberty blockers or gender dysphoria in general is met with cries of ‘transphobia’, pharmaceutical companies and various medical professionals have been given carte blanche to claim puberty blockers are safe with no real research into the long-term effects of these drugs on children.”

 

Treatments for gender identity issues among Scottish children are soaring  Sunday Herald

“The number of children being treated for gender identity disorder in Scotland has quadrupled in just three years – to more than 200 cases last year.”

 

UK doctor prescribing cross-sex hormones to children as young as 12 The Guardian 

“A doctor in Wales is prescribing cross-sex hormones to children as young as 12 who say they want to change sex, arguing that if they are confident of their gender identity they should not have to wait until 16 to get the treatment. Helen Webberley, a GP in Wales, has set up a private gender clinic and recently started treating children, a “handful” of whom she has started on cross-sex hormones, including a 12-year-old.”

 

What about the children who said they were transgender – and then changed their minds? Independent

“The conservatism of transgender ideology is often absent from modern discussions about gender, and there is a lazy conflation of transgender issues with gender neutrality. The moves by John Lewis and some schools to introduce “gender neutral” clothing are to be welcomed, but it is baffling that they have been heralded across the liberal media as a victory for “transgender pupils”.”

 

When Transgender Kids Transition, Medical Risks are Both Known and Unknown Frontline

“The Endocrine Society’s guidelines suggest starting puberty blockers for transgender children when they hit a stage of development known as Tanner stage 2 — usually around 10 or 11 years old for a girl and 11 or 12 years old for a boy. The same guidelines suggest giving cross sex hormones — estrogen for transgender girls and testosterone for transgender boys — at age 16. However, doctors caution that estrogen and testosterone, the hormones that are blocked by these medications, also play a role in a child’s neurological development and bone growth.”

 

Why I’m raising my kids to know their sex, not their gender J.J. Barnes

“Kids need to know their sex. Not least in part for medical reasons… Understanding their own biology is pivotal, but teaching them about gender is unnecessary. And in some cases it is harmful.”

 

World’s youngest sex-change operation The Telegraph

“I was always against such operations on children so young but after seeing how happy one of my patients was and how well adjusted after returning from having the operation abroad while still a teenager – I realised that in some cases it is the right decision.”

 

Personal stories

I don’t know the source of this screenshot.

There are many more stories at 4thWaveNow – I only link to the few there that I’ve read.

A mum’s voyage through Transtopia: A tale of love and desistance by Lily Maynard  4thWaveNow

A parent’s story – Charlotte GIDS

Born in the right body: interview with Brie Jontry, the mother of a teenage desister 4thWaveNow

Call the Police! Mom questions transgender treatment model, gets banned from support group 4thWaveNow

‘Children just need to be loved,’ parents say after transgender son’s suicide Alabama News Site

‘Do You Want a Happy Little Girl or a Dead Little Boy?’: My Choice as a Mother  DeShanna Neal

Family where mum is daddy, dad is mummy and son, 4, is being raised as gender neutral Daily Mirror

FTMTF LadyAntiTheist

From Blue to Pink – When the Trans Virus strikes home Feudal Times blog

Hitting Peak Trans and Becoming a Minority of One Gender Critical Dad

I Had 4 Boys — Until One of Them Told Me She Was Really a Girl Good Housekeeping

I was an eight-year-old drag queen Chad Felix Greene

Kai was born a girl but knew he was a boy by age of 3 The Sun

Mother lets transgender son, 6, live as a girl Metro UK

 

My daughter is not transgender. She’s a tomboy Lisa Selin Davis

Raising a non-binary child: ‘As long as one of the side-effects wasn’t death, it was the right way’ The Guardian

These fathers are fighting for their trans kids too Outsmart magazine

Transgender girl, 10, launches campaign to spread awareness of equal rights two years after she began her transition The Mirror

12-year-old describes growing up transgender New Hampshire News Site

We Still Have a Son and Daughter — Just Not the Way We Expected Good Housekeeping

Spotted on reddit:

 

Stories concerning Mermaids charity

Where on the spectrum might your gender be? Gender Trender

A complaint about an article reporting alleged against Mermaids Critical Sisters site

Mermaids TG are either lying or hopelessly unprofessional Fair play for Women site 

Parents in bitter battle over their child’s gender: Father brands controversial transgender charity as ‘meddlers’ Daily Mail

Transgender children: the parents and doctors on the frontline The Observer

The case of Child J

Judgement in the Child J case

Mermaids UK charity ban as boy forced to live as girl The Times (paywall)

Same story in a free sheet, includes statement from Mermaids Metro

When lobby groups like Mermaids dictate policy and discourse around gender identity, kids lose Feminist Current

 

Page last updated: 22.04.18